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I'm dating this guy and we have gone on 4 dates and talked about possibly seeing each other more often (and still seeing other people), how much attention is too much attention via text during the day or at night? I ask because I think short texts like "I hope you're having an awesome day!" are fun to get/receive, BUT, I don't want his thinking I'm pursuing too much or pressuring him to text or anything like that.
What do you all think?
Do you think the woman should take a more passive role when keeping up communication during the week? Ideally, it should be equal, but is it ok for the woman to initiate? When I say "ok" what I mean is do guys find that a turnoff?
I like the constant communication. Even if it's something random...I've been told I can be "overbearing" when it comes to that because I'll text you with tidbits of useless information, because I'm thinking about it and want you to be involved in that in some way.
More importantly, do what you feel is comfortable.
If this guy is conflicted about me vs the other people he's dating, do you think this kind of attention could set me apart in a good way. Like, "Hey, this girl is taking time to text hello to me", and that will give me an edge over my competition?
I like the constant communication. Even if it's something random...I've been told I can be "overbearing" when it comes to that because I'll text you with tidbits of useless information, because I'm thinking about it and want you to be involved in that in some way.
More importantly, do what you feel is comfortable.
Yeah, I feel the same way.
When I'm not super busy, I like to text a little. But, I don't want to come across as overbearing or be burdensome.
I'm dating this guy and we have gone on 4 dates and talked about possibly seeing each other more often (and still seeing other people), how much attention is too much attention via text during the day or at night? I ask because I think short texts like "I hope you're having an awesome day!" are fun to get/receive, BUT, I don't want his thinking I'm pursuing too much or pressuring him to text or anything like that.
What do you all think?
Do you think the woman should take a more passive role when keeping up communication during the week? Ideally, it should be equal, but is it ok for the woman to initiate? When I say "ok" what I mean is do guys find that a turnoff?
From what I can tell from your post, you really like this guy but you have been burned before so you are very risk adverse. My suggestion is you either go with your heart, cut loose the other guys you have stringing along as a safety net, free fall and hope you land on the next love in your life, or wait around for the one who can make you feel 100% safe and excited at the same time.
Personally, I hate this constant communication by text. To me it's annoying and seems like everyone wants to be joined at the hips these days after 2 dates. I probably feel this way though because texting never existed when I was younger. I guess it's different for people who like or grew up with texting.
If this guy is conflicted about me vs the other people he's dating, do you think this kind of attention could set me apart in a good way. Like, "Hey, this girl is taking time to text hello to me", and that will give me an edge over my competition?
It could...but if he's on the fence with you and you send him 'cutesy' texts he could think you're clingy and not be as interested.
Just give him some if he responds then respond back. If he doesn't. He's busy. Or doing something with friends. Or laughing at you. Lol J/k.
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