The end of a date and saying goodbye (dating, lesbian, women)
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So I went out with someone I met online earlier and it was really fun. I don't really do online dating much since it requires a lot of time and effort especially when it comes to being a male, but the person I ended up meeting was a joy to be around. I expected to date the last around an hour tops, but we stayed out for a few hours and when it came to responsibilities and paying, I found it to be very egalitarian which I highly respect. We even went into our experiences with dating and what we are looking for kind of. What threw me off however was the end. We just hugged and while we said we would meet up again, I assumed it would at least end in a kiss. I even made an attempt to do so, but she just turned her head slightly away from mine which left me a little confused. She probably is planning on going out with other guys or has no intention of seeing me again. I don't know. I just needed to vent and see if anyone has shared my experiences.
eh, a lot of women do not kiss on a first date, not that big of a deal, I would have done the same thing. The hug was sufficient so don't overthink it just see her again whenever possible, have a great time and do not expect a kiss at the end of the date so soon.
I generally don't kiss on the first date and especially so for online dates. I just met this person, even if we've hung out for a few hours. I have made exceptions of course, but that absolutely depends on how the date goes. Sometimes I really click with someone so it feels natural to kiss.
So I went out with someone I met online earlier and it was really fun. I don't really do online dating much since it requires a lot of time and effort especially when it comes to being a male, but the person I ended up meeting was a joy to be around. I expected to date the last around an hour tops, but we stayed out for a few hours and when it came to responsibilities and paying, I found it to be very egalitarian which I highly respect. We even went into our experiences with dating and what we are looking for kind of. What threw me off however was the end. We just hugged and while we said we would meet up again, I assumed it would at least end in a kiss. I even made an attempt to do so, but she just turned her head slightly away from mine which left me a little confused. She probably is planning on going out with other guys or has no intention of seeing me again. I don't know. I just needed to vent and see if anyone has shared my experiences.
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So I went out with someone I met online earlier and it was really fun. I don't really do online dating much since it requires a lot of time and effort especially when it comes to being a male, but the person I ended up meeting was a joy to be around. I expected to date the last around an hour tops, but we stayed out for a few hours and when it came to responsibilities and paying, I found it to be very egalitarian which I highly respect. We even went into our experiences with dating and what we are looking for kind of. What threw me off however was the end. We just hugged and while we said we would meet up again, I assumed it would at least end in a kiss. I even made an attempt to do so, but she just turned her head slightly away from mine which left me a little confused. She probably is planning on going out with other guys or has no intention of seeing me again. I don't know. I just needed to vent and see if anyone has shared my experiences.
You met for a few hours and want to swap mouth germs?
Think of it this way. You've met for a few hours, and he (or she) grabs your drink and starts sucking on your straw. Wait, that has an alternate, awesome visual. Anyway, some woman I just met a few hours ago who just goes ahead and grabs the straw and wails on it with her lips and mouth is just .. DAMN THIS VISUAL>>> Get outta my head. Anyway, to me that's kind of personal. What if they took a bite of your sandwich? Is taking a bite of your sandwich less weird than kissing after a few hours?
OP, it sounds like you both had a good time. If she was not enjoying your company she would not have stayed 3 hours. Many women do not kiss on a first date, so don't take that personally.
its more about you than her- if you make too much of an issue of this,,,then you are doomed with her.
a wise man, will appreciate the time just getting to know her-
many women dont kiss on the first date- be happy with the hug
most women have had bad experiences,,, if she lets a guy kiss them, then the guy will take it as a green light to start rounding the bases- then if she stops him,,he will say she gave him mixed signals...
dont fret about it-she's letting you know she isnt going to be easy- and dont expect too much too soon - ask her out again, get to know her, and let her get to know you better
The last girl I dated did take offense and seemed visibly upset that I didn't kiss on the first date which made me feel a little bad since I wasn't trying to hurt that person. I just didn't feel ready at the time. With this girl, I didn't want to make that mistake again since dating is all about learning from past experiences, but I guess for now I'll see how the next date goes.
The last girl I dated did take offense and seemed visibly upset that I didn't kiss on the first date which made me feel a little bad since I wasn't trying to hurt that person. I just didn't feel ready at the time. With this girl, I didn't want to make that mistake again since dating is all about learning from past experiences, but I guess for now I'll see how the next date goes.
and here-in lies the challenge,,,one girl will wonder why you didnt kiss her, while another one will turn away...
I once asked a lesbian,,,how the first date kiss goes...i'm thinking they can read the signals better being a woman and on the same team...and she said, she has been turned away on a first date- some girls just wont kiss on a first date- also, while guys will think "just a kiss" with some women a kiss, is very intimate, and sensual...
and here-in lies the challenge,,,one girl will wonder why you didnt kiss her, while another one will turn away...
I once asked a lesbian,,,how the first date kiss goes...i'm thinking they can read the signals better being a woman and on the same team...and she said, she has been turned away on a first date- some girls just wont kiss on a first date- also, while guys will think "just a kiss" with some women a kiss, is very intimate, and sensual...
Hmmm that's true especially the last part and something I never really considered in regards to how she might have experienced that situation. Thanks.
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