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So after breaking up with me 4 months ago (via text after a 3 year relationship) and absolutely no contact since then, my ex texted me "Happy Birthday"-to which I didn't respond and deleted the message. Later that day he called me and left me a voice mail wishing me a Happy Birthday again-which I then deleted after listening.
I am the type of girl that once a relationship is over, its over. I have never ever contacted an ex on holidays or birthdays.
Is this common? Have any of you done this yourselves or had someone do it to you?
My parents remained civil after the divorce. I don't know if they ever went out of their way to call on holidays/birthdays, but they remained in contact I'd venture to say once a month. Three years spent with someone is a long time. I wouldn't respond back if I was still hurting from the breakup.
I had amicable/mutual break-up's where we remained friends. Yes, we wished each other a happy birthday or holiday. For the no-so-nice break-up's, no further contact after we split.
For example, I have an ex that became my ex when she got a good job on the other side of the country. We've both moved on since then but every once in a while I'll call to catch up. In fact, why not now?
No, I havent wished happy holidays or bdays to ex'e.
I don't think an ex has wished me happy holidays or bdays after splitting.
I don't usually remain friends with ex's. It may be different for people that are still in contact with ex's due to children, mutual friends, or maybe employment.
Nope. I did get an e-mail from my ex on New Year's Day, but it wasn't wishing me a happy new year or anything, it was to forward tax information leftover from when we lived together/had a car together...beginning of the year and all.
Other than a few sparing instances of that type of thing, we haven't talked in the past year; no real reason to. It wasn't a good breakup, we don't have kids, don't have mutual friends, etc. We live in the same city for the time being, but don't ever run into one another.
I would send a quickie text or e-mail if it ended on good terms. But I'm not the type that would wipe that person out of my life simply because we ended a relationship. Seems I'm in the minority though.
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