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I remain "friends" with my ex and yes we text on birthdays/holidays. I think its fine theres no bad feelings at all with us so why not? Plus we randomly text just to see how one another are
Clearly he wants communication with you. I have had birthdays where I was single and I wanted to go out so I called an ex and went out with them. BAD idea because someone always wants there to be another date. I was still in communication with another ex and it happened to be his birthday so I did say happy birthday. I can't remember if that was the year I asked him to do me a favor (we mutually did each other favors.) and he said "you want me to do that on my birthday? I had forgotten his birthday Good guy so I felt bad. I did say happy birthday only because we were already in communication.
This guy OP is tapping you because he wants a response, to NOT be in No contact. If you don't want contact anymore, keep it that way. It's like giving with strings attached , that's why he said it twice.
So after breaking up with me 4 months ago (via text after a 3 year relationship) and absolutely no contact since then, my ex texted me "Happy Birthday"-to which I didn't respond and deleted the message. Later that day he called me and left me a voice mail wishing me a Happy Birthday again-which I then deleted after listening.
I am the type of girl that once a relationship is over, its over. I have never ever contacted an ex on holidays or birthdays.
Is this common? Have any of you done this yourselves or had someone do it to you?
Heck no. But I can certainly see this for those people that have remained good friends. I know at least one gal that does this. She and her hubbie are actually best buds with her ex and his wife.
I would send a quickie text or e-mail if it ended on good terms. But I'm not the type that would wipe that person out of my life simply because we ended a relationship. Seems I'm in the minority though.
I'm with you. If I'm single and still friends with my ex (and they are single) I may wish them a happy birthday. Check in from time to time.
I'm a very caring person though, I genuinely do care in a friendship way for most any girl I have ever dated, regardless of whether things ended on good or bad terms. I have a very hard time going for caring a ton to not caring at all. It's just how I was raised. I have had girls I have dated contact me for advice or just to chat when they were down about something (even another guy) and I am totally fine and appreciate that.
I would send a quickie text or e-mail if it ended on good terms. But I'm not the type that would wipe that person out of my life simply because we ended a relationship. Seems I'm in the minority though.
Me too. I'm actually good friends with almost all my exs. They know me better than anyone else. No reason to waste that.
I have children with my ex - I see no reason NOT to wish the parent of my child "Happy Birthday"
Shows your children you respect the person that helped bring them into the universe.
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Good guy so I felt bad. I did say happy birthday only because we were already in communication. 
