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And does learning about and applying basic prevention indicate that someone has a high sex drive or a low one?
I was surprised by someone assuming the latter in a couple other threads yesterday.
I always thought the whole point of safe-sex education and STI testing (like the point of feminism and birth control) was more and better sex for everyone. Have I got this stuff backwards?
If I prefer to have sex every day multiple times, but I used condoms for the first 6 months and quizzed my bf about his testing and history before we ever did anything... does that mean I have a low sex drive and I hate sex? Cause if so, I'd better break the news.
But seriously folks, if someone you are dating is concerned and educated about this stuff, do you consider it a red flag for a sexually repressed future?
Wow, this is a really good question for this forum. I've noticed that every time someone points out that condoms don't cover all the genitalia, and that one is still potentially exposed to STI's using a condom, someone inevitably accuses the poster of being anti-sex, or pro-fear, or something. It'll be interesting to see how this thread goes.
I don't think there's any correlation between STI education/prevention and sex drive or quality of sex.
I think there is a correlation between this and intelligent responsibility.
If you have a high sex drive and act on it often (and especially promiscuously), yet are irresponsible w.r.t. STIs, you are pro-ignorance, or attempting to manipulate someone for your own ends.
And does learning about and applying basic prevention indicate that someone has a high sex drive or a low one?
Neither. Those are two completely different variables. It would be interesting for someone to study to see if there's a correlation between them, but I wouldn't necessarily expect there to be.
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I always thought the whole point of safe-sex education and STI testing (like the point of feminism and birth control) was more and better sex for everyone.
If your definition of "better sex" includes "sex that is less likely to spread infections," I agree completely.
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
If I prefer to have sex every day multiple times, but I used condoms for the first 6 months and quizzed my bf about his testing and history before we ever did anything... does that mean I have a low sex drive and I hate sex?
Of course not.
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
But seriously folks, if someone you are dating is concerned and educated about this stuff, do you consider it a red flag for a sexually repressed future?
Not at all. I will admit that I don't tend to associate condom use with wild, free, uninhibited sex, but it's better than the alternative.
And does learning about and applying basic prevention indicate that someone has a high sex drive or a low one?
I was surprised by someone assuming the latter in a couple other threads yesterday.
I always thought the whole point of safe-sex education and STI testing (like the point of feminism and birth control) was more and better sex for everyone. Have I got this stuff backwards?
If I prefer to have sex every day multiple times, but I used condoms for the first 6 months and quizzed my bf about his testing and history before we ever did anything... does that mean I have a low sex drive and I hate sex? Cause if so, I'd better break the news.
But seriously folks, if someone you are dating is concerned and educated about this stuff, do you consider it a red flag for a sexually repressed future?
I would say that someone who asks your questions about testing and history is someone concerned with their health and well being. It really has little to do with ones sex drive.
I would also say you in particular have a higher than average sex drive based from women I have dated.
You do realize that statistics say, and I'm generalizing here, that studies have shown that couples on average have sex 2 x's a week or somewhere around there.
I know some people are risk takers, and they have unprotected sex, with multiple partners, and this occurs often. It is a personnal choice they make in the heat of the moment.
You obvisouly have more control than these people I know that have unprotected sex. But I wouldn't say you are less or more horny than the next person because of this.
Whoever made the assumptions you refer to yesterday would be wrong.
Originally Posted by NilaJones I always thought the whole point of safe-sex education and STI testing (like the point of feminism and birth control) was more and better sex for everyone.
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If your definition of "better sex" includes "sex that is less likely to spread infections," I agree completely.
I also mean 'more uninhibited'. Less distracted by fear and worries.
@Taoist: What if you are not promiscuous, but are careful when starting a new monogamous relationship?
It's always wise to be careful, whether promiscuous or monogamous. Who knows what asymptomatic STI you could have? Even virgins can have been exposed to some of the nasties.
Sometimes you may have to use your best judgment based on how well you know someone. Many people can't afford frequent testing even if it's indicated based on their behavior.
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