Hey guys,
So I met this guy at a friend's party and we started talking, so I have a few complaints about this whole situation with him. I could be overreacting but it's just me and my past.
Just a few facts:
1. The guy does not live in the city, he lives two hours away from me and is working.
2. He calls me everyday and texts me every single morning to say "Good Morning sweetheart" and "Good Night my sleeping beauty" every single night. I don't mind gns and gms but with those cheesy words along with it gets to me since I am not at that stage with him to get referred to like that.
3. I am working too so if I don't get time to reply, he will always inquire about what is happening.
4. I don't want to update him constantly what I am doing. He is always telling me what he is up to and sends me pictures from all over the places. Sometimes his own too and am like WHY?!
5. I don't want to lead him on or anything because even two hours is a long distance in my opinion and the past has built up a strong 'say NO to LDR' of any kind of an opinion.
6. He once told me how he would also never do an LDR so to me after listening to his say on it, I was talking to him as a friend because I did not expect anything to happen btw us due to impracticalities.
7. So, I never flirt with him but he does.
The problem: He asked me if I was free to spend the next weekend with him and I thought he will just get a hotel or find a friend in the city so I was like why not. He told me he wants to stay with me, I don't like that idea a lot since I only met him 3 times and I don't want someone just living in my house over the weekend like that. I lied and said well I have a friend staying with me that weekend so there is no space to which he said he could even sleep on my couch??!!
if not we can set another dates
Questions:
1.How do I avoid this weekend plan with him? He's a nice guy by nature but I don't want to lead him on, I am fine with being friends and if he can't then I would stop talking.
2. I think I am overprotecting myself at the same time. I don't want to date this guy irrespective of the fact that he is nice, decent yada yada yada to me more recent conversations sounded like he is not just like saying let's hang out this weekend but more like let's 'spend' the weekend together. Plus he talks things like "aww you need a big long hug because you're tired", "awww I would have carried you home right now", I never give any reaction to such lines, I just don't enjoy them.
3. I didn't reply to him at all today but I don't wanna I myself faced the last guy I was seeing i.e just disappear and never speak again stance.
4. How do I explain it to him? I am going to be very straightforward if I am going to think what to say and it hurts people's feeling sometimes so I want opinions on how to maybe word my explanations.
Thank you!