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I don't know about you folks, but sex is very important to me. I'd hate to wait 2-12 months to find out the women Ive fallen for is bad in bed (or not up to my standards)
What if a woman waits (lets say 2-6months or longer) only to find out the dude is limp noodle and/or is totally sorry in the sack? that playing with yourself is 10x better than having sex with him? what next? surely you're not going to tell me it doesn't matter? unless sex is not important, you've just wasted your time and his time. imo
I don't know about you folks, but sex is very important to me. I'd hate to wait 2-12 months to find out the women Ive fallen for is bad in bed (or not up to my standards)
What if a woman waits (lets say 2-6months or longer) only to find out the dude is limp noodle and totally sorry in the sack? that playing with yourself is 10x better than having sex with him? what next? surely you're not going to tell me it doesn't matter? unless sex is not important, you've just wasted your time and his time. imo
I think sex is very important. I would never marry someone without sleeping with them first. But we are talking about around 2 months here - not a year. I think everyone should wait until they are comfortable. In my relationships - I already knew I had feelings for them and that they had feelings for me before we had sex. There was no set time limit - and it certainly was never a year. But I was at a point where I knew I wouldn't regret it, I felt safe, and I knew that (barring a limp noodle or something like that) - it would only make our relationship stronger.
Honestly, most men dont really care about your bi tendencies or sexual past with women, for most it'll likely be a turn on. Nowhere near as much as women, who will not have anything to do with a bi male, 99% of the time. OP, just frame it in a way that isnt scarry. Saying, i want to wait till the time is right, to alot of guys may sound like they have to wait a couple of years. Say something like, "id like to wait a litle bit, until we get to know one another and are alot more comfoortable together. Just frame it differently, where there is still a possibility of you two being intimate in near future, and you shouldnt have this problem. Poor men. They have no idea how much women love sex as well, and that they really never, ever have to beg for it.
"Honestly, most men dont really care about your bi tendencies or sexual past with women"
Right, wrong or indifferent the OP is right in her desire to put this in her past if shes looking at marriage to a man and children. From the poll about 43% would not date a Bi women because of her past. Most men who are looking for Stability, marriage and a family would view this as and undesireable past. Many people will say who cares, but the end result is still a smaller pool of desireable men //www.city-data.com/forum/relat...-bisexual.html
Like some of the other posters stated 5 serious dates and a month or so is right in determining if the guy is looking for something long term. You will lose the men who are not serious very quickly It might sound short but 5 serious dates combined with hours of texting, phone calls and impromptu meetings is enough for many to establish a LTR.
Like some of the other posters stated 5 serious dates and a month or so is right in determining if the guy is looking for something long term. You will lose the men who are not serious very quickly It might sound short but 5 serious dates combined with hours of texting, phone calls and impromptu meetings is enough for many to establish a LTR.
I agree with this, not necessarily a LTR, but whether in not you would like to try for one.
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I've just come to the conclusion that I'm going to hold out until I'm ready and if a guy doesn't like it, then I'll just move on
You should ALWAYS wait until you are ready. Have you done it a lot when you weren't ready?!
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I let the girl decide when she's ready, although after a while I get really annoyed. There comes to a point when enough is enough, and I honestly start looking for new relationships if it takes too long. It's kind of hard to take a relationship seriously if you're not even having sex in my opinion.
That's just my personal view though. Don't take that into consideration.
The only person's view that matters in dating is your own. Do what you want and find someone who is compatible with that.. however if you wait too long you might miss out on quite a few quality guys. Just because a guy thinks sex is important in a relationship doesn't mean he's a pig or going to dump you after he gets laid.
I let the girl decide when she's ready, although after a while I get really annoyed. There comes to a point when enough is enough, and I honestly start looking for new relationships if it takes too long. It's kind of hard to take a relationship seriously if you're not even having sex in my opinion.
That's just my personal view though. Don't take that into consideration.
The only person's view that matters in dating is your own. Do what you want and find someone who is compatible with that.. however if you wait too long you might miss out on quite a few quality guys. Just because a guy thinks sex is important in a relationship doesn't mean he's a pig or going to dump you after he gets laid.
"I let the girl decide when she's ready"
That's what I do in every relationship I have been in. It's usually not that long, time wise, but I always feel like I know her very well by the time it happens.
You should ALWAYS wait until you are ready. Have you done it a lot when you weren't ready?!
Yes, unfortunately. Long story short, I suffered through a lot of abuse growing up. So I felt like if I told a guy that I didn't want to sleep with him, he'd physically hurt me. So that's how I ended up with a lot of partners. I've been in a lot of therapy sessions since and I have recovered. Honestly, my recent ex gf was the only person who I wanted to sleep with.
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