I fell for a man who is 17 years older.... (boyfriend, how to, women)
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LoL If he's , I am not interested. Not looking for a sugar daddy but someone to connect with!
Sigh, I like your argument and example, that actually makes me very happy. But it's the start of my career. I mean if I flirt and he doesn't like me, then I'll be embarrassed. Not to mention, my office has a lot of drama already without my help and I would be hurting his job too. So that's ....I am thinking of leaving this place in 2 years. Perhaps I will tell him then
It may not be necessary as you may have an SO or be married by then.
I think you're wise not to pursue this, not because he's younger, but because you work with him. It's not fair to create an uncomfortable work environment for him simply because he happens to be perfect!
I think you're wise not to pursue this, not because he's younger, but because you work with him. It's not fair to create an uncomfortable work environment for him simply because he happens to be perfect!
what you have is most likely just a "crush" . It will pass with time.
I had the opposite ... a while back. I came very close to asking out someone I have known for a few years, that is actually... by coincidence 17 years younger than me . ( we both are over 30 ) ( no I'm not your boss LOL )
Like you I knew it was wrong and would never last , so why waste the time... I'm sure your boss would be flattered tho....
Sigh, I like your argument and example, that actually makes me very happy. But it's the start of my career. I mean if I flirt and he doesn't like me, then I'll be embarrassed. Not to mention, my office has a lot of drama already without my help and I would be hurting his job too. So that's ....I am thinking of leaving this place in 2 years. Perhaps I will tell him then
how old are you? (generally)
and have you ever stayed at work as long as he has? any chance for working late and ordering chineese food delivered at the office? Do you ever ask if he could use any help on his business trips ("I'm very good at logistics!"), or "I've never been to NYC! Wanna go so bad"?
single bosses, owners, managers, supervisors, or men of any stature are always looking for quality and enjoyable help
Oh, I have the exact same problem... in fact, I just posted about it a few minutes ago.
The man I feel for is 14-years older and he's completely single, but I am not his type. The funny thing was he was just a friend and then he started paying me extra attention... I don't think he meant to, but he ended up winning over my heart. He would do things like take me out to dinners, walk with his arm around me, give me long more than just friendly hugs, and he'd walk with me placing his hand on the small of my back. He took me for a long nighttime walk on the beach (I know, cliche... but I loved it). He lives a bit of a distance from me, so I only see him ever couple of months. I stay at his house when I do and he's very casual with me too. Doesn't even close his bedroom door. To me, these all screamed he had an interest in me.
He was so kind to me, so much a gentleman and treated me so well... and I thought he had an interest in me that I fell for him.
Well, last time I was out there he tried to set me up with another man. Told this man all about me and introduced me to him. This man was closer to my age. He was a nice guy, but we really weren't interested in each other. And I was kind of bummed in general anyway.
I am still trying to get over a love that never was. It kills me sometimes. I'll feel like I am getting over him and then he sends me a message about my next visit telling me how much he can't wait to see me again and that he has plans for us. I read into it and my emotional side kicks in even though my logical brain knows it's not what I think it is.
Anyway, I think it just takes time. I had a guy friend tell me I just needed to find a man to rock my world in bed to make me forget all about my friend. He said, "if I didn't have a girl friend, I'd help you out!" lol... he's a joker. But I wonder if he's right. It's part of the reason I am trying so hard to find someone (but at the same time why my heart isn't in it because I still like my other friend so much).
Oh, I have the exact same problem... in fact, I just posted about it a few minutes ago.
The man I feel for is 14-years older and he's completely single, but I am not his type. The funny thing was he was just a friend and then he started paying me extra attention... I don't think he meant to, but he ended up winning over my heart. He would do things like take me out to dinners, walk with his arm around me, give me long more than just friendly hugs, and he'd walk with me placing his hand on the small of my back. He took me for a long nighttime walk on the beach (I know, cliche... but I loved it). He lives a bit of a distance from me, so I only see him ever couple of months. I stay at his house when I do and he's very casual with me too. Doesn't even close his bedroom door. To me, these all screamed he had an interest in me.
He was so kind to me, so much a gentleman and treated me so well... and I thought he had an interest in me that I fell for him.
Well, last time I was out there he tried to set me up with another man. Told this man all about me and introduced me to him. This man was closer to my age. He was a nice guy, but we really weren't interested in each other. And I was kind of bummed in general anyway.
I am still trying to get over a love that never was. It kills me sometimes. I'll feel like I am getting over him and then he sends me a message about my next visit telling me how much he can't wait to see me again and that he has plans for us. I read into it and my emotional side kicks in even though my logical brain knows it's not what I think it is.
Anyway, I think it just takes time. I had a guy friend tell me I just needed to find a man to rock my world in bed to make me forget all about my friend. He said, "if I didn't have a girl friend, I'd help you out!" lol... he's a joker. But I wonder if he's right. It's part of the reason I am trying so hard to find someone (but at the same time why my heart isn't in it because I still like my other friend so much).
Hang in there! You aren't alone.
Lots to say, but to cut to the chase: you're convenient entertainment. It is also possibly he is working up another "keeper". Sometimes guys who are near to proposing or near a final decision as to "I'm gonna commit to her" do a "lets see how my fishing skills and luck is at my age" tour.
if you really want him, start dating other guys and "having a great time"!
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But it's the start of my career. I mean if I flirt and he doesn't like me, then I'll be embarrassed. Not to mention, my office has a lot of drama already without my help and I would be hurting his job too. So that's ....I am thinking of leaving this place in 2 years. Perhaps I will tell him then 
