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Me and my fiance have been dating for 4 years goin on 5 he has always told me he wanted a child (he doesnt have any of his own i have two from previous relationships) and i am not ready to have another child i think we have enough with the two we have one is 7 and the other 5. I dont know how else to tell him im not ready we r not ready financially or emotionally!! please help me give me some advice!! thank you!!
Tell him the truth. If you never want to have another child, or if you would like to wait a few years, either way you should tell him. Even if it's a dealbreaker -- it would be so unfair otherwise.
If you have already been with him for almost 5 years, you should be able to discuss this issue...if you cannot, that is a great big red flag that will not improve if you two get married.
I've learned that you can't make a relationship work if one person is not on the same page as the other in regards to marriage and kids. If he wants kids of his own, you can't deny him that. It's best to let him go if you have not intention of having another. It's an experience he will resent you for.
if you've truly decided you don't want anymore kids, it's bad news if you don't tell him before marriage. i think having kids when you get married is a basic expectation guys.
also, really, it could also be a legal basis for annulment (fraud)
You need to clarify your position. Are you saying you don't want kids now because you're not ready financially/emotionally, or are you saying that YOU don't want any more kids? Explain your stance and you can probably get better advice.
You're entitled to be in charge of your own fertility. It's not his azz that has to grow another human for nine months, chit it out through his butt, then feed it for the next 18 years.
I'd get an IUD and forget about it. No need to tell him. He'll think his fish can't swim or something.
In a few years, it might be time. You sound very young and kind of uneducated so you definitely do not need another baby right now.
You're entitled to be in charge of your own fertility. It's not his azz that has to grow another human for nine months, chit it out through his butt, then feed it for the next 18 years.
I'd get an IUD and forget about it. No need to tell him. He'll think his fish can't swim or something.
In a few years, it might be time. You sound very young and kind of uneducated so you definitely do not need another baby right now.
You're entitled to be in charge of your own fertility. It's not his azz that has to grow another human for nine months, chit it out through his butt, then feed it for the next 18 years.
I'd get an IUD and forget about it. No need to tell him. He'll think his fish can't swim or something.
In a few years, it might be time. You sound very young and kind of uneducated so you definitely do not need another baby right now.
What a ridiculous suggestion -- you don't suggest or support dishonesty in a relationship, that is a recipe for disaster.
I believe from reading OP's last post that she is probably more educated and mature than you are.
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