Should I contact again after ignored text? (dates, long distance, guy)
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Met this guy while on vacation with some friends. We hit it off pretty hard for the days we were there (kissing, but no sex). We exchanged numbers before leaving to go back home. We both live in different states on the east cost.
After getting back home we communicated pretty regularly, mostly texting. We both expressed how we really liked each other, missed each other, etc., etc.. One night I asked him if he would be willing to me me at a halfway point for a weekend in September since I was going to be in that area anyway to visit some family. I would drive and he was planning on flying. He said Yes and asked me for the dates and he would check tickets. Several days later he said he checked tickets and he would come on "this day" leave on "that day" and would let me know the details when he purchased the tickets.
Maybe I was being a little annoying but the the next day I text him asking, "when do you think you will buy them?" He never respond. Silly me the next day, I text him again and asked if he got my previous text. Still no response. Just weird, so I don't know if I should just let it go altogether, or maybe wait a few weeks and see if he contacts me, or should I try to contact him again??
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Before the "guy should do all the contacting or he ain't interested" brigade shows up, I'd not text, but call him and at least feel his voice out to see if there are any clues you can gather in his tone.
By no means do I think the guy should do ALL the contacting or it means he isn't interested but when he's ignoring your messages, it's a pretty clear sign he's lost interest. It does sound a little like you maybe nagged him too much, perhaps you came across as too clingy and needy, and he decided this whole long distance thing wasn't worth it for someone he's not even in a serious relationship with yet. You definitely need to back off and see if he gets back to you. You've left him several messages and if he's still interested he WILL get back to you.
You've texted twice, it is up to him to get in touch if he wants. Who knows, maybe he met someone else. Or maybe he lost his job and is too embarrassed to tell you he can no longer or afford it. Or maybe he thinks you are a nag. Or none of the above! The important thing is, he isn't responding to you which means he probably isn't going to visit.
I think you're doing too much of the pursuing. HE should have been the one to initiate you two getting together and making the plans. I would not contact him again, and try to step back into the passive role. That is the only way to find if he wants what you do.
I have to add, I had a few of those vacation love affair things, but when reality hits it is not the same. The connection just isn't there the same as it was. In fact I had one of the longest and worse weekends of my life with a guy I met in Texas on vacation, then few weeks later he came to visit...and outside of the context of vacation, we had ZERO to talk about. I was counting the seconds until that weekend was over. Vacation connections are usually based on fantasy and don't translate well to real life. Of course there are exceptions, but if you and this guy are meant to be, you will not have to steer it there. If you are having to prod and initiate, this is NOT the guy for you and you are trying to force something that's not meant to be.
Long distance relationships are bad and tough on everyone. Plus you don't know what the other person is doing. There is enough problems in relationships in the same city. Be patient and casually date, be safe and don't open your heart or give a lot of time to anyone unless you feel they've earned it. Family excluded. Hope I helped. Wayne S Sullivan.
Sounds like he's trying to subtly trying to drop the issue. Long distance is stupid anyway.
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