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Old 08-27-2013, 12:42 PM
 
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i recently started developing a crush on my boss, even though she is twice my age. I think it might have something to do with how she is respected by everybody on our staff. in that case i can't help but think that falling for her was inevitable.

Does anyone else think that it is only natural for you to be attracted to your boss?
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Old 08-27-2013, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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It's not natural necessarily, but it sometimes happens. I've been attracted to a few of my bosses. They're well-educated, well-compensated and confident in their position in life. If they're attractive to boot, it's hard not to be attracted to them.

Two of mine even hit on me a few years ago.
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Old 08-27-2013, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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Expected? No. I don't think it's too uncommon. The age difference between you and your boss might be. I've been "the boss" most of my adult life. I only know of two employees who had crushes on me, but I was never available so there could have been more.
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Old 08-27-2013, 12:54 PM
 
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i recently started developing a crush on my boss, even though she is twice my age. I think it might have something to do with how she is respected by everybody on our staff. in that case i can't help but think that falling for her was inevitable.

Does anyone else think that it is only natural for you to be attracted to your boss?
I hope not. I've never had a boss I found attractive.
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Old 08-27-2013, 12:54 PM
 
Location: NY
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I would think what is expected is to keep the business relationship with a boss on a professional, business level. Now, that does not mean you would not or could not find yourself attracted to a boss. However, it certainly would not mean you would have to, and most likely would also mena you probably should not act on the atttraction while the person is a superior.

I have had a lot of bosses. I have never felt a deep attraction to them.
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Old 08-27-2013, 01:07 PM
 
Location: Terra
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A few years ago I wanted my boss in the worst way. She was attracted to me also, but I resisted because she was 2 levels above me in the corporate chain and I thought better of it. She's with another company now and I regret not having fun for a bit!
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Old 08-27-2013, 01:12 PM
 
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dont get professional etiquette mixed up with the person practicing it.

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Old 08-27-2013, 01:16 PM
 
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if she's attractive, not only is it expected, it's required
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Old 08-27-2013, 01:21 PM
 
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I was naughty.

Would you like to take me into your office and write me up?
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Old 08-27-2013, 01:25 PM
 
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Depending on the people involved, co-workers, work environment it sure can open you up to a lot of problems if you act on any attraction.

Then on the other hand, it can be the best thing that ever happened to you. Twenty years ago I was my wife's boss. After three weeks of being such I asked her out on a date. We have been together ever since that first date.
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