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It's guy talk...AKA BS. I wouldn't and don't put much stock into what men say to each other about their relationships and women.
Don't take it so personally.
I didnt want to respond to this thread.
But.... I dont agree here.
Women should be concerned to some level about this kind of stuff.
I havent heard a guy talk like this in about 10 years. And I know some guys that are pretty big and built.
It should be a red flag to a woman that dates a guy that talks like this. It isn't totally BS.
Be concerned. Dealbreaker? Probably not, as long as specific names arent being used. But again, I havent heard that caveman talk in over 10 years. And I hang out with a lot of different guys. We are mostly 30 years old and up. It is more common amoung 16-22...
I didnt want to respond to this thread.
But.... I dont agree here.
Women should be concerned to some level about this kind of stuff.
I havent heard a guy talk like this in about 10 years. And I know some guys that are pretty big and built.
It should be a red flag to a woman that dates a guy that talks like this. It isn't totally BS.
Be concerned. Dealbreaker? Probably not, as long as specific names arent being used. But again, I havent heard that caveman talk in over 10 years. And I hang out with a lot of different guys. We are mostly 30 years old and up. It is more common amoung 16-22...
Well, I am in my 20's so it's still fairly prevalent. He can talk all he wants, but trust me, he knows better than to talk to me that way.
I don't mind guy talk at a bar after a couple drinks. I know I can be guilty of the same thing.
I just think it's okay regardless. I grew up in a household full of men. I know how they talk when they are together. 99% of it is harmless banter. Now, if it carries over into the relationship-it's a problem, but for the most part I find it doesn't.
I have to agree with others, it's just a bunch of men talking a bunch of crap. Most of the stuff said they are just trying to top each other and impress others, and have no idea what they are talking about. It's like being in a locker room and guys telling half truths about how many women they take home a week, knowing they are going home to their left hand, the internet and a bottle of lotion. And to be fair women can be just as bad. Talking about how much money a guy has to have, or good looking he has to look or how they got a guy to spend money on them. Can't take that stuff personally, especially when stuff like that comes from people you will never ever meet.
I just think it's okay regardless. I grew up in a household full of men. I know how they talk when they are together. 99% of it is harmless banter. Now, if it carries over into the relationship-it's a problem, but for the most part I find it doesn't.
The problem is the following:
It kind of sabatoges the person to whoever they are being bashed to.
If a guy or gal starts talking trash to friends about someone they are dating, it creates problems in social situations. The partner never gets a fair chance to represent themself.
Actual blood related brothers talking is waaaaaaay different than 'bros' talking.
You can vent and BS with guys that share your last name.
But 'bros'.... totally different.
I can see why you are a little confused here. Don't mix up brothers venting with 'bros' venting. Does it happen, sure. But it isn't and shouldn't be the same.
I have to agree with others, it's just a bunch of men talking a bunch of crap. Most of the stuff said they are just trying to top each other and impress others, and have no idea what they are talking about. It's like being in a locker room and guys telling half truths about how many women they take home a week, knowing they are going home to their left hand, the internet and a bottle of lotion. And to be fair women can be just as bad. Talking about how much money a guy has to have, or good looking he has to look or how they got a guy to spend money on them. Can't take that stuff personally, especially when stuff like that comes from people you will never ever meet.
i dont know, this sounds like lack of respect to me.
If it's ok for you to find out your s/o is talking smack like this about you, then have fun with that.
I choose to not be treated like an a-hole.
The problem is the following:
It kind of sabatoges the person to whoever they are being bashed to.
If a guy or gal starts talking trash to friends about someone they are dating, it creates problems in social situations. The partner never gets a fair chance to represent themself.
Actual blood related brothers talking is waaaaaaay different than 'bros' talking.
You can vent and BS with guys that share your last name.
But 'bros'.... totally different.
I can see why you are a little confused here. Don't mix up brothers venting with 'bros' venting. Does it happen, sure. But it isn't and shouldn't be the same.
I am not confused. I understand both sides. I have a lot of male friends too and I am more inclined to think along the same lines.
Like I said, it's not a problem as long as the behavior isn't transferred over into the relationship.
To be honest, I could care less what my bf's guy friends think of me. I don't really care how I am represented to them-to be honest, if I am represented poorly, it's probably true. I find women tend to over exaggerate a good or bad relationship to female friends.
If you are talking about the misc and relationship forums of bodybuilding.com you can take everything there with a grain of salt. It is an inside cultural thing.
i dont know, this sounds like lack of respect to me.
If it's ok for you to find out your s/o is talking smack like this about you, then have fun with that.
I choose to not be treated like an a-hole.
As someone stated it depends on what it is. And the context. Is she saying ughhh my bf/husband can be so lazy sometimes or girl men can be so stupid, my bf still can't figure out how to load clothes in the washing machine. You can't take that stuff personally. Now if she said she was using me or talking about how bad in bed I was, then of course if I found out about it, she would have to go. Now as to what the OP was talking about, I think those were just guys just talking about women they don't even have. Men and women do that kind of that stuff, and you just can't take it personally. Many times when a group of people get together in any kind of forum, they will talk a bunch of crap just for the sake of talking crap.
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