I Love my girlfriend, but I can't get over our trivial age difference (how to, married)
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In your case, I honestly don't think the age difference should bother you. Six years isn't a big difference at your age, and it will seem less as you grow older. She looks younger than you and acts younger than you, she's beautiful, sexual, and loving. You love her, she loves you, and it sounds like you agree on important things like when to start a family.
If she was 10, 15 or 20 years older I can see why you'd be hesitant, but the way you've described her it seems her age shouldn't be a concern. I think you're just getting the jitters because of the big decision. It's perfectly normal to take a hard look at any possible negatives at a time like this, but don't put more weight to them than they deserve.
I say go for it! Sounds to me like you're a lucky guy!
Quit being a pansy. Its 6 f'ing years. She's 32 not 92. My wife is 20 years older than I am. I was 23 when we met she was 43. You think we got some stares? You're hung up on yourself and what others think of the relationship not her age. If you're happy with her and everything in the relationship is going great quit whining. I'll tell you this right now. If you go through life wondering what others think and make your choices based on what they perceive as right or wrong you will always lose. I have never given a thought what anyone thinks of my personal choices in love finance or life in general.
( I've been with my wife or 20 years and she is still the right one for me) live your life for you and her not someone else.
Good luck in your decision.
Quit being a pansy. Its 6 f'ing years. She's 32 not 92. My wife is 20 years older than I am. I was 23 when we met she was 43. You think we got some stares? You're hung up on yourself and what others think of the relationship not her age. If you're happy with her and everything in the relationship is going great quit whining. I'll tell you this right now. If you go through life wondering what others think and make your choices based on what they perceive as right or wrong you will always lose. I have never given a thought what anyone thinks of my personal choices in love finance or life in general.
( I've been with my wife or 20 years and she is still the right one for me) live your life for you and her not someone else.
Good luck in your decision.
If yours is working at a 20 year difference then he has nothing to complain about
Quit being a pansy. Its 6 f'ing years. She's 32 not 92. My wife is 20 years older than I am. I was 23 when we met she was 43. You think we got some stares? You're hung up on yourself and what others think of the relationship not her age. If you're happy with her and everything in the relationship is going great quit whining. I'll tell you this right now. If you go through life wondering what others think and make your choices based on what they perceive as right or wrong you will always lose. I have never given a thought what anyone thinks of my personal choices in love finance or life in general.
( I've been with my wife or 20 years and she is still the right one for me) live your life for you and her not someone else.
Good luck in your decision.
Very true! Far too many people care what others think and not what truly makes them happy. If I was in a happy healthy relationship and I loved the person then I would not care what anyone thought about it
Hey those 6 years was a kinda large difference when you got together, but now they aren't really, in 10-15 years they're practically nothing. the longer you stay together the less will 6 years be in relevance to your own age.
As woman her lifeexpectancy might be about 6 years more than yours too so...I don't really know where I was going with that but u get the idea...
I am a 26 year old male and I've been with my beautiful 32 year old girlfriend for over 5 years now, and I could honestly say that I am deeply in love with her. I've never felt so loved and happy before, and I believe that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Our sex life is out of this world, and I can't keep up with her, and we also have a really deep emotional connection. I'm about to ask her to marry me, however, I'm suddenly feeling really hesitant and I think it's because she's 6 years older than me...
My girlfriend has always been a lot less mature than me, and I think that stems from the fact that she lived a very sheltered life. I was also her first real boyfriend, and she lost her virginity to me. She also looks a lot younger than she is, and people are always amazed that she's older than me. In essence, I've always felt like the older, and more mature person in our relationship. We are also in the same place career wise, and we both discussed wanting to have kids in about 3-4 years from now.
Despite this, though, I can't help but worry about our age difference...It feels nonexistent now, but I worry that It'll be evident in the future...At times I think that 6 years is such a small age gap and that my worries are incredibly immature and nonsensical. But at times I feel that our 6 year age difference is something to worry about, maybe not now, but in the future...
I am deeply in love with this girl, and I've never been so physically and emotionally attracted to someone before. I'm about to ask her for marriage, but I can't get rid of the nagging thought that she's older than me.
Am I crazy? Is a 6 year age difference really that big of a deal among adults?
tl;dr: I'm about to ask my beautiful girlfriend to marry me, but lately I can't get over the fact that she's 6 years older than me. Are my concerns unjustified?
For MATURE adults no my husband is 10 years older than me and has been that many years older than me since we have been together. Amazing how the age difference has never changed all these years.
For "immature" adults who have been fine with the age difference for 5 years but now that marriage is a possibility the age difference has become an issue.......YES, it is an issue.
the longer you stay together the less will 6 years be in relevance to your own age.
Exactly. It's the opposite of what you fear: As you get older, the age difference will seem even smaller than it is now. I guarantee this.
You might ask yourself, though, if this is really what you are worrried about. Could it be that something completely different is what's really bothering you, and you have latched onto this age thing because you don't want to think about the real issue?
Also, if you're worried that her looks will deteriorate, keep in mind that if she looks younger than her age now, she will continue to look younger most likely unless something like bad stress or disease takes a toll. I think you'll severely regret if you walk away now--finding someone as compatible as you two sound like you are is like trying to find a small diamond in a coal mine--only harder!
I am a 26 year old male and I've been with my beautiful 32 year old girlfriend for over 5 years now, and I could honestly say that I am deeply in love with her. I've never felt so loved and happy before, and I believe that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Our sex life is out of this world, and I can't keep up with her, and we also have a really deep emotional connection. I'm about to ask her to marry me, however, I'm suddenly feeling really hesitant and I think it's because she's 6 years older than me...
My girlfriend has always been a lot less mature than me, and I think that stems from the fact that she lived a very sheltered life. I was also her first real boyfriend, and she lost her virginity to me. She also looks a lot younger than she is, and people are always amazed that she's older than me. In essence, I've always felt like the older, and more mature person in our relationship. We are also in the same place career wise, and we both discussed wanting to have kids in about 3-4 years from now.
Despite this, though, I can't help but worry about our age difference...It feels nonexistent now, but I worry that It'll be evident in the future...At times I think that 6 years is such a small age gap and that my worries are incredibly immature and nonsensical. But at times I feel that our 6 year age difference is something to worry about, maybe not now, but in the future...
I am deeply in love with this girl, and I've never been so physically and emotionally attracted to someone before. I'm about to ask her for marriage, but I can't get rid of the nagging thought that she's older than me.
Am I crazy? Is a 6 year age difference really that big of a deal among adults?
tl;dr: I'm about to ask my beautiful girlfriend to marry me, but lately I can't get over the fact that she's 6 years older than me. Are my concerns unjustified?
Are you serious???
What's the matter with you??
Love overcomes so much. Why would THIS bother you???
What if she runs faster, cooks better, quicker at jokes & comebacks??? Will you wished you hadn't married her???
Geez!! Get a grip!!!
If that is you only problem I'd say you have a good one.
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