who wears the pants in your relationship, and how old are you? (older, children)
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It isn't that complicated. IMO, the one that handles the situation is probably the 'alpha' between the two people. (I really dislike the term alpha)
3. I guess if one person directs the other person to kill it, they could also be considered the one that wears the pants, even though that person doesn't directly kill the spider.
It was kind of sort of a joke, but IMO it is a decent indicator of who wears the pants. I just didnt consider option 3 in my original thesis.
I think the best solution is to let the cats do it. It's free entertainment for the cat, and provides them with some stimulation.
Mer-ow
Maybe its too simplistic. As fleetiebelle stated often each partner is better suited to handle particular situations. Life is more complicated than a spider as you pointed out in #3.
We both wear pants in our homes. Except when my wife wears a skirt.
What about togas, or hula skirts? Or even kilts? On Halloween, many couples must get confused. And what if you live in Ireland where Kilts are worn more frequently ?
Or parade days when guys wear kilts ?
Maybe its too simplistic. As fleetiebelle stated often each partner is better suited to handle particular situations. Life is more complicated than a spider as you pointed out in #3.
Yep. In my marriage we played to each other's strengths. Can't say as though I always wore the pants, it really depended on what she laid out for me. Sometimes it was shorts. She seemed to feel dressing myself was not one of my strengths...
There is no wearing of pants all the time in a successful modern marriage at least in a situation where neither party is a psychological wimp. Normally someone has to be the predominate leader otherwise the marriage loses its ability to function in emergencies. However, an intelligent leader knows that one person should not lead all the time. If your family is facing a particular serious situation, the predominate leader should be willing to relinquish their role if their partner is more knowledgeable and/or experienced in that situation.
I will add that, if you do not have the ability to say to the other party that you're sorry when it is warranted, or say "I love you" daily, you had better marry a wimp.
JMO based on 42 years of marriage.
I do emergencies bc I am professionally trained to do so.
I very much believe in full 100% equality of both genders, in a romantic relationship.
With an appropriate amount of compassion, egalitarianism, respect, kindness, and patience, there is no real need for either party to a relationship to have to wear the pants, in it
If someone that I hypothetically cared about romantically insisted on always being the one to control everything we did, or unilaterally wear the pants, we would not be compatible due to that fundamental inequality, and that relationship would not be one that I would stay in.
I agree with Knight2009 here.
For my boyfriend and I, there is no power struggle. And I'm so grateful that there is b/c we both can have strong personalities from time to time, but it has never resulted in a perceived power issue between us.
My job definitely places me in a position where I'm required to be aggressive and in control, which is not my personality outside of work. The opposite is true for my boyfriend. I definitely do encourage him to take more of a leadership role in our relationship with certain things...but this is in part due to my conservative nature and desire to see him be more proactive about xyz.
You seem to say hogwash a lot. I'm betting you are the dominate one in your marriage, or former one.
No.
I have no desire to push people around or dominate.
I am a leader at work...that's enough responsibility and say-so for me.
At home, I am pretty laid back.
Btw, nice dodge.
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