Boyfriend is constantly changing his mind and doesn't seem to be able to fight (married, love)
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Emerald, no, it's not that, that's also not the way he saw it (that I didn't trust him). He said that's not the problem. I just thought and I still think that taking his offer could put too much pressure on a person who's already possibly doubting and wants to take everything very slow. I don't want him to feel responsible for me.
Nila, but that's the problem we had before- Not to talk directly about things. When we had fights we were both usually stubborn and didn't really talk about the problem, just started to hug and kiss again after a while and that was it. We both agreed we have to talk about problems or misunderstandings directly, that's the only way to solve them.
Are you confusing 'giving him time to cool off' with 'never talking about it ever'?
If you wait one day, or two or three, and then you talk about it and solve the problem, is that ok for you?
Are you confusing 'giving him time to cool off' with 'never talking about it ever'?
If you wait one day, or two or three, and then you talk about it and solve the problem, is that ok for you?
But he even said that he prefers if we directly talk about problems or misunderstandings in the future and not postpone it. Also, if we don't talk about it for three days he will just be pissed at me for three days and behave strange. That's also not how it should be I guess.
Being with someone shouldn't be this hard. It should be as comfortable as putting on your favorite pair of shoes. Move on and find your perfect fit instead of trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
Emerald, no, it's not that, that's also not the way he saw it (that I didn't trust him). He said that's not the problem. I just thought and I still think that taking his offer could put too much pressure on a person who's already possibly doubting and wants to take everything very slow. I don't want him to feel responsible for me.
Sorry but you took a simple offer and solution to your problem and created a bunch of DRAMA with the crying theatrics and relationship talk. Can't you see how you overcomplicated things?
You need some help. Not to be rude but you made a whole mess out of nothing.
But he even said that he prefers if we directly talk about problems or misunderstandings in the future and not postpone it. Also, if we don't talk about it for three days he will just be pissed at me for three days and behave strange. That's also not how it should be I guess.
People who need time to cool off often say that. You have to go by what he does in the moment. You said he said he was not ready to talk about it.
If several days of behaving strangely doesn't work for you, and it is what he needs, then you two may not be compatible.
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