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Yea, dude is hardcore. C'mon brah, get with the alpha program already! (sarcasm)
As we experience new relationships, we realize that each relationship is extremely unique. And sometimes stunts that previous partners pulled that was tolerated becomes an instant deal breaker, and sometimes previous instant dealbreakers become tolerable.
Crazy how that works IMO.
Of course! But there is more to a relationship than sex. The excitement wears off over time anyway so to select an LTR partner based purely on sex is foolish.
That was head and shoulders better than anyone you've since encountered? Does it in any way negatively affect the current relationship you are in (assuming it isn't with the guy or girl that blew your mind). I know it's unfair to compare current to previous and there was a good reason why things didn't work out long term with the old partner, but can it even be avoided while alone and feeling the "itch" so to speak?
Yep, I still have fantasies about her to this day. She was very in tune with me and was able to steer me in any direction she wanted. I wish there were others that were close. I actually worry that the next woman I am intimate with will end looking bad by comparison: "Sorry but sex with you is so mediocre that I have to leave you."
Of course! But there is more to a relationship than sex. The excitement wears off over time anyway so to select an LTR partner based purely on sex is foolish.
Of course, but if are really not compromising you would pick a partner who fullfills all of your needs including the best sex.
Is it too much to ask for great compatibility on all levels: Physical and mental attraction, Common Interest, good communication, Personal and financial goals, and fantastic sex?
That was head and shoulders better than anyone you've since encountered? Does it in any way negatively affect the current relationship you are in (assuming it isn't with the guy or girl that blew your mind). I know it's unfair to compare current to previous and there was a good reason why things didn't work out long term with the old partner, but can it even be avoided while alone and feeling the "itch" so to speak?
So, here's my 2 cents from this guy's perspective and experience, other may have different opinions and experiences.
1. As you gain experience from having more partners, you discover what you like, what is no longer novel and interesting, and the various ways to please a partner. So at first, all new sex is so very good, but there is a point where sex is sex, unless its with someone who always has a certain pulsating energy, is uninhibited, and downright a pleaser open to doing what it takes to satisfy your sexual desires, no matter if it changes tomorrow.
2. Unlike women I think, guys generally don't need to have that emotional connection to have mind blowing sex, but yes sex is much more meaningful and pleasurable (different type) than carnal sex.
3. It is difficult for a guy to undo his biological wiring for a diversity of experience and partners. We all have talked about guys and variety/monogamy before. But obviously somehow being in a monogamous relationship can work for many. but i also think that is one of the reason why fantacizing about someone else during the performance is so prevalent, and yes i know women do it too.
4. Familiarity breeds contempt, meaning that the more you are with one person, you start to discover each's others shortcoming and dislike/tolerate them. And the emotional connection tends to affect the sexual relationship. It's a generalization of course, so your experience may vary. But as you know many sexless marriages do exists for whatever reason, and my guess is that for one partner, or both, sex just isnt fun, good, or "worth it" as much as it did before. There are too many marital issues affecting the sexual desire of the other partner. This also relates the the guy's saying that behind every hot women is a guy who is tired of banging her.
I had a friend once tell me that her mom's advice to her was that marital problems will always start or end up in the bed and to work them out or you will end up dealing with them another way that will negatively affect the marriage. I am a believer in that.
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. I actually worry that the next woman I am intimate with will end looking bad by comparison: "Sorry but sex with you is so mediocre that I have to leave you.
