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Am I chasing him or just showing interest? Please help me!! I promise to answer yours...?
I know he has interest in me, but was scared that I appeared uninterested or worst, he might have even thought I friend zoned him for many reasons. However I was definitely not doing it on purpose, somehow I just figured then he was not interested in me while the signs were all there ( I asked for example if he had any friends he could pair me with and all sorts of other inconsiderate remarks).
So, I took what I thought was a ''risk'' by inviting him casually over Facebook to grab a bite of the food we serve at my summer job. I do this with all my friends. I haven't heard from him since (3 days), which is understandable as he has no obligations to answer as we are not even close to dating.
However, I was wondering if I could send him a new message asking him whether the food was tasty or not in a fun witty way (he took some home, we were closing up or else it goes in the garbage). The message I have in mind is untranslatable.
I don't know considering that I've initiated three very casual convos on Facebook if that message is an and if it appears (even worse!) as a lame excuse for him not to ''forget'' about me knowing that sometimes women (and men of course) tend do this unconsciously. Would i just be polite/friendly or seem desperate by sending him a seemingly of an excuse just to contact him...
Or should I possibly wait for him to show up again (he asked what days I work) and ask then?
Also, at work it was nothing flirty, although he did seem to have this puppy eye look before leaving and seemed to try to prolongate the whole thing. He asked me to grab a coffee with him while I was working but I told him he had to go because we needed to pack up )
no more facebook messages. just next time you see him asking what he did last weekend or gonna next weekend. if he asks why you asking, just say youre looking for some ideas.
really, for high school guys and early college, all you have to do is get near them and talk to them about their plans, whats going on, etc. and remind him of your facebook invite to see if "he got it". if he is mum, just ask him if he he is dating or has a girlfriend "cuz you can bring them along".
no more facebook messages. just next time you see him asking what he did last weekend or gonna next weekend. if he asks why you asking, just say youre looking for some ideas.
really, for high school guys and early college, all you have to do is get near them and talk to them about their plans, whats going on, etc. and remind him of your facebook invite to see if "he got it". if he is mum, just ask him if he he is dating or has a girlfriend "cuz you can bring them along".
I discourage women from chasing men who aren't really interested. However, there is nothing wrong with showing initiative and being aggressive in chasing down a man who you know is clearly interested in you. Who cares if you have to stick you neck out a little? In the end, you will both end up with what you want.
Am I chasing him or just showing interest? Please help me!! I promise to answer yours...?
I know he has interest in me, but was scared that I appeared uninterested or worst, he might have even thought I friend zoned him for many reasons. However I was definitely not doing it on purpose, somehow I just figured then he was not interested in me while the signs were all there ( I asked for example if he had any friends he could pair me with and all sorts of other inconsiderate remarks).
So, I took what I thought was a ''risk'' by inviting him casually over Facebook to grab a bite of the food we serve at my summer job. I do this with all my friends. I haven't heard from him since (3 days), which is understandable as he has no obligations to answer as we are not even close to dating.
However, I was wondering if I could send him a new message asking him whether the food was tasty or not in a fun witty way (he took some home, we were closing up or else it goes in the garbage). The message I have in mind is untranslatable.
I don't know considering that I've initiated three very casual convos on Facebook if that message is an and if it appears (even worse!) as a lame excuse for him not to ''forget'' about me knowing that sometimes women (and men of course) tend do this unconsciously. Would i just be polite/friendly or seem desperate by sending him a seemingly of an excuse just to contact him...
Or should I possibly wait for him to show up again (he asked what days I work) and ask then?
Also, at work it was nothing flirty, although he did seem to have this puppy eye look before leaving and seemed to try to prolongate the whole thing. He asked me to grab a coffee with him while I was working but I told him he had to go because we needed to pack up )
I apologize for my poor English.
Hmm
You have initiated 3 convos and went to lunch, and he still isn't initiating convo's with you? I call red flag.
Pursue him more if you want, but he should be putting more effort in.
I would guess he is either not that interested in you or he is really really dum. And guys aren't usualy that dumb about this stuff
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