Guy let go of my hand when he saw my colleague (dating, man)
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Walking in a mall with him holding hands, a colleague of mine came by said hi to me, he immediately dropped my hand. After a few hours I decided to tell him I didnt like his reaction he was like oh I am sorry but his ex always did that to him so he was trained to do that. He said less drama in that way, and he said in a joking way that "Well I dont want your colleague to think that you are dating a big guy and he looks scary."
I am not fine with it, thinking of moving on. What do you guys think? Is it disrespectful or am I just overreacting.
Walking in a mall with him holding hands, a colleague of mine came by said hi to me, he immediately dropped my hand. After a few hours I decided to tell him I didnt like his reaction he was like oh I am sorry but his ex always did that to him so he was trained to do that. He said less drama in that way, and he said in a joking way that "Well I dont want your colleague to think that you are dating a big guy and he looks scary."
I am not fine with it, thinking of moving on. What do you guys think? Is it disrespectful or am I just overreacting.
He gave you an explanation, and I don't think he has been disrespectful to you on purpose. I understand that you are hurt and felt insulted, but seriously, listen to this guy's words. "I don't want your colleague to think that you are dating a big guy and he looks scary." I believe him when he said his ex did that to him all the time.
Reassure him that he is loved and you like big guys. Screw the vindictive, disrespectful, b*tchy ex, he is with you now. I guarantee you that he would feel much more comfortable with you.
Walking in a mall with him holding hands, a colleague of mine came by said hi to me, he immediately dropped my hand. After a few hours I decided to tell him I didnt like his reaction he was like oh I am sorry but his ex always did that to him so he was trained to do that, He said less drama in that way, and he said in a joking way that "Well I dont want your colleague to think that you are dating a big guy and he looks scary."
I am not fine with it, thinking of moving on. What do you guys think? Is it disrespectful or am I just overreacting.
it's forgivable but his explanation is worthy of review: OWNED!
I think it's strange that you insist he hold your hand or find it disrespectful if he doesn't want to for whatever reason. I think it's even stranger that you're considering ditching a guy over not holding your hand at the mall.
You're not only over reacting, you are making a proverbial mountain out of a grain of sand. I don't see the issue at all. Granted, you did and you asked for an explanation adn he gave you a very reasonable one.
Please have him come to these forums. I have some advice for him, too. I think you are being controlling, bitchy and he should probably move on.
You told him how you felt, see if he changes before simply moving on.
Some people are okay iwth PDA in public, some aren't. By default and out of respect, I refrain, unless person I'm with says otherwise.
I feel awkward with any PDA (hold hands or a kiss goodbye for example) in front of a gf's parents, unless she says it's okay and not a big deal. This has nothing to do with how I feel about my gf or being ashamed, it's just a respect issue. See if he changes first.
I think it's strange that you insist he hold your hand or find it disrespectful if he doesn't want to for whatever reason. I think it's even stranger that you're considering ditching a guy over not holding your hand at the mall.
This. Holding hands for the sake of companionship and fun is great. Using it as a way to control somebody is a problem.
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