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It depends on how much I like her.
It depends on who liked her first.
It depends on what kind of friend we're talking about. (If he's looking for a piece of a$s..Or is he a relationship type)
It depends on what kind of friend he is to me. (Is he only liking her because I do and sees it as a competition?)
i wouldn't be giving up anything...there are two people deciding what happens in the end, not just me. the girl isn't just there to be a possession to take ownership of, she actually has a say in what she wants to happen as well.
if someone i was good friends with was interested in the same girl, all i would have to say is "sorry" and continue on with my life. it isn't stopping just because we both fancy the same lass
Shouldn't the third party have a say in this? What if she likes you and not your friend? Why would you give up on the chance that you could be a good match?
Shouldn't the third party have a say in this? What if she likes you and not your friend? Why would you give up on the chance that you could be a good match?
No, not really.
The OP is referring to situations in which two friends are interested in the same person, and one friend will not pursue the the other person out of respect or whatever reason of their friend.
it is very typical behavior of guys aged 14-20ish when they still have the 'bro' mentality. As I said before though, most guys don' actually follow this consistently, they sell the concept to naive guys and then when they know a naive guy will defer interest in a woman 'cause we're bro's', they use such ideals agaisnt the naive guys.
The more naive the guy is, the longer he remains 'bros' with these guys/salemen.
If the woman likes the naive guy, and she pursues him, then often the two guys wind up 'competing' for the person of interest. Often times, guys wind up fighting or backtabbing, cause as I said, it is a theory often sold, but seldom consistently executed. It is probably the easiest way for two guys to find out if they are true friends, or friends of convenience. A true friend steps aside and lets 2 people interested in each other have a chance. But the playa playa's step in and try to get theirs, regardless of what the friend, or woman wants. 'She wants me, she just doen't know it yet.' ahh, the mentality of teenagers/cavemen.
Shouldn't the third party have a say in this? What if she likes you and not your friend? Why would you give up on the chance that you could be a good match?
I would stay aside regardless of what she thought (even if she liked me, which is doubtful).
I would stay aside regardless of what she thought (even if she liked me, which is doubtful).
Sounds like something a wimp would say.
Why would step aside and not expect your friend to do the same. And why would it be doubtful that she liked you? Because you carry yourself with low self-esteem?
If you're walking thru life saying things like "I like her, but I doubt she likes me."..Then of course you would step aside, not because you are a good friend, but because you don't got the stones to go after her.
Probably. More because I am allergic to competition in romance, than because of ideals.
(I am very idealistic about ethics, but somehow this question is not triggering that in me.)
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