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Ok so I've been dating for a while now and it seems that every guy is a player or unreliable in some way or they just want sex and nothing else. How do you go about finding good men aged 20-30? I don't care about looks or how much money he makes. I just want someone honest, kind, smart and romantic. I don't want to do the online dating thing. I tried it once and I got 1,000,000 messages, most of them perverted.
Where are the good men???
Where do you look for men? Have you joined any sports or hiking groups? Volunteered for political or enviro orgs or community orgs? Theater groups? I think some of the good guys in this age group tend to hang out with their friends, wondering where all the good women are. Everyone really needs to get out and mingle more.
Remember, nowadays a lot of men in their 20s early 30s are products of the so-called "hook up culture," where no-strings sex and "friends with benefits" arrangements are the norm.
You can thank women for that. It takes 2 to tango. The Sexual Revolution gave us women who would shamelessly hookup with us. We're talking full advantage of that gratuity.
Age does not equate maturity. Its the individual that is mature or immature.
"Age does not equate maturity."
I don't no where that saying comes from but if you look at any area that would measure maturity: "Education", "Stability", "Financial success", "Ability to support parents or children", there is almost no area where someone would become less mature with age?
As an example that wouldn't apply to me or any of my friends or people I graduated with. When we were in our 20's, in, and just out of college we were partying 24/7, blowing every penny we had going out and having fun. 30s came around, most all of us got are financial act together, many got married settled down and had kids. For "most" people Maturity does come with age. The opposite is almost never true.
I don't no where that saying comes from but if you look at any area that would measure maturity: "Education", "Stability", "Financial success", "Ability to support parents or children", there is almost no area where someone would become less mature with age?
As an example that wouldn't apply to me or any of my friends or people I graduated with. When we were in our 20's, in, and just out of college we were partying 24/7, blowing every penny we had going out and having fun. 30s came around, most all of us got are financial act together, many got married settled down and had kids. For "most" people Maturity does come with age. The opposite is almost never true.
i actually had a hell of a lot more responsibility in my twenties than i have now my thirties
i think the objection is more that the stereotypes that are applied to people in their late teens and twenties are wrong more commonly than people think, and also that some people just never really "grow up"
It's been my experience that a lot of the good men tend to be a bit quiet (not always, but a lot of times). Sometimes you have to seek them out and break the ice before they will make a move.
This is it. Many of them can be reticent, and some get into a bit of a rut, hanging out with their friends. You really have to circulate, and search them out.
I don't no where that saying comes from but if you look at any area that would measure maturity: "Education", "Stability", "Financial success", "Ability to support parents or children", there is almost no area where someone would become less mature with age?
As an example that wouldn't apply to me or any of my friends or people I graduated with. When we were in our 20's, in, and just out of college we were partying 24/7, blowing every penny we had going out and having fun. 30s came around, most all of us got are financial act together, many got married settled down and had kids. For "most" people Maturity does come with age. The opposite is almost never true.
I don't think maturity is based on any of the things you listed.
Maturity is about life experience, most often. It's not bout being able to bankroll family or how many degrees you have.
Yes available good men. I am tired of little boys. I should have added that I am thinking of dating older men just for the maturity factor.
Sorry, but the older men who are willing to date younger women are much less mature!
I know it's tough to find good guys, but they do exist. Think about where the guy you want hangs out, and guys you don't want, don't. In other words not bars . Maybe meetup groups related to a hobby you would like to have in common? What kinds of stuff are you into?
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. Maybe meetup groups related to a hobby you would like to have in common? What kinds of stuff are you into?
