What is good to have in a prenup? (wife, marriage, women)

[NilaJones]

Assuming that both parties want the prenup, both have about equal income and assets, and both want it to be fair to everyone, what should it say?

(I bolded the part I thought some posters might miss.)

[akck]

I would want to specify that retirement accounts remain separate, including contributions made after becoming married. I'd include something so one person can't "hide" assets by contributing more to the account while the other paid more to daily living expenses. I'd have a provision for how a pregnancy would affect the above.

[augiedogie]

I've heard that prenups are not worth the paper their printed on. Women have gotten them thrown out in divorce proceedings by just testifying that she signed under duress. The judge threw it out. If I was a man, I wouldn't put any faith in one, as divorce courts have historically favored the wife.

[upndown]

Originally Posted by augiedogie

I've heard that prenups are not worth the paper their printed on. Women have gotten them thrown out in divorce proceedings by just testifying that she signed under duress. The judge threw it out. If I was a man, I wouldn't put any faith in one, as divorce courts have historically favored the wife.

Yeah, I've read stories about that happening, which is amazingly stupid. That's what happens when judges decide they want to use the courts to forward their own personal agenda at the expense of the actual law.

[NilaJones]

Be strong guys, resist the temptation to think this is a thread about moneygrubbing women, reread the OP. This thread is about when both parties want the prenup, and both want it to be fair. It's about when emotionally healthy grownups get married.

[Cyber Surfer]

Businesses or personal assets acquired by each individual before marriage (or engagement for that matter.) like family/personal businesses, vacation homes, expensive material goods like vehicles (if you can afford one this day and age) and personal savings.

Basically anything in your life you worked hard/inherited for before the ring.

[David223]

My honest advice is to not get married. I wish I never did.

[cindersslipper]

A prenup invalidates a marriage by its very existence.

Marriage is becoming one legal and societal entity. That's its job. Prenups defeat the purpose of marriage.

Solution - don't get married.

[NilaJones]

@cinderslipp: It might be different in Oz . In the US, where there is no right to health care, many people get married primarily for the health insurance and social security benefits.

[akck]

I'd also include a provision for inheritances received during the marriage.