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By that I mean calling them out on their bs, giving them a hard time jokingly when flirting etc. I know I like it when guys do that and it seems like every guy I know likes that too. Want to hear more in detail on that from guys.
By that I mean calling them out on their bs, giving them a hard time jokingly when flirting etc. I know I like it when guys do that and it seems like every guy I know likes that too. Want to hear more in detail on that from guys.
Like it? No. But that doesn't mean they shouldn't do it. We all need to be called out on our crap sometimes.
However, make sure not to cross the line into cruelty or insensitivity. A lot of people who claim to be jokingly giving their partner a hard time are, in fact, passive-aggressives acting out of bitterness and hostility. Those people need to be kicked to the curb, asap.
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Depends on how it is done. I don't want to date a pushover. I like and need a person to call my on my sh*t. And I need intellectual engagement, otherwise I won't respect the other person. But how it is done and why it is done is pretty key. As RPG says, lots of it is passive aggressive stuff and that is a no go. Unfortunately, much communication is done through email or text now and early on (Even later) tone can be difficult to figure out.
This should make up a small portion of interaction, like any other humorous exchange. When it takes a bigger portion of time, persons aren't on the same wavelength and individuals get easily upset. You have to wonder why two persons can't be more straightforward. Joking is OK and calling someone on their mistakes or inconsistencies is fine, but when it gets to be too much, who is it you really want to be with: the real or the ideal?
I think Raena77 is right, always cool to meet someone who can take it as well as they can dish it out.
IME, women, however, probably enjoy being teased a bit more than men. but perhaps i should qualify that by saying the ones who still have a sense of humor and enjoy a laugh or two at their expense.
fyi, i've also found that women like a guy who is self-deprecating at times with a sense of of humor. (note: self-deprecating is not self-defecating for those that may accidentally confuse the two)
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By that I mean calling them out on their bs, giving them a hard time jokingly when flirting etc. I know I like it when guys do that and it seems like every guy I know likes that too. Want to hear more in detail on that from guys.
Absolutely not. Any girl who gives me a hard time just because will be dumped right on the spot. I will not have that after spending 8 hours a day getting a hard time over BS.
I dont mind because I dish the crap myself with women that I am familiar with. Fun is healthy in good taste.
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