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EEEEEEk. Yes, i know, this is a patently bad idea, but what are you gonna do? The heart is a stupid thing.
I live in the back of an old Victorian and there are a few of us who live here-5 to be exact. He lives in the house and I live out back in an excellent vintage motorhome (its a great setup). Our proximity is not such that we see each other every time we have to go to the kitchen or whatever, but we see each other several times a day.
He has been here for a few months, and the more I have gotten to know him the more I like him. He is from another country and his accent and looks always did it for me, but now its really more about the fact that he is such a nice guy, so funny, so humble- he is one of those guys who isn't really aware of how handsome he is. He isn't a player and he doesn't try and impress you with crap. He is just a down to earth dude who works in a creative field. We are close in age, we have both been married before, we have alot of compatibilities and shared attitudes. I find out more about him on a nearly daily basis. We laugh alot- he is a great cook too and shares his food with us. ALl of us gals are just nuts over him, but me especially.
I am not really sure how to proceed tho, or if i SHOULD proceed. He is supposed to be moving out in a few months, because he is actually a sublet, and i am wondering if i should wait til then. But what if HE meets someone in the interim?
If we DID try something and it didn't work out i think we are both the type of people who would be ok with that. We have talked alot about that stuff- about how we aren't jealous types, we don't hold a grudge against our exes, that sort of thing. I think we could handle it.
But i am just scared to make that first move. Thats a big dangler, there, if he doesn't feel the same. It would be so uncomfortable to be in my own home then, you know? it would be so embarrassing.
Get buzzed or drunk with him, make a very obvious move and if it doesn't work, deny any knowledge of it the next day.
This exact thing has happened to me before. -__- (I didn't do it to someone, someone did it to me)
Anyway, to the OP, I would say to see what happens! I'd hesitate if he was going to stay indefinitely but if he is leaving then that makes it even easier.
EEEEEEk. Yes, i know, this is a patently bad idea, but what are you gonna do? The heart is a stupid thing.
I live in the back of an old Victorian and there are a few of us who live here-5 to be exact. He lives in the house and I live out back in an excellent vintage motorhome (its a great setup). Our proximity is not such that we see each other every time we have to go to the kitchen or whatever, but we see each other several times a day.
He has been here for a few months, and the more I have gotten to know him the more I like him. He is from another country and his accent and looks always did it for me, but now its really more about the fact that he is such a nice guy, so funny, so humble- he is one of those guys who isn't really aware of how handsome he is. He isn't a player and he doesn't try and impress you with crap. He is just a down to earth dude who works in a creative field. We are close in age, we have both been married before, we have alot of compatibilities and shared attitudes. I find out more about him on a nearly daily basis. We laugh alot- he is a great cook too and shares his food with us. ALl of us gals are just nuts over him, but me especially.
I am not really sure how to proceed tho, or if i SHOULD proceed. He is supposed to be moving out in a few months, because he is actually a sublet, and i am wondering if i should wait til then. But what if HE meets someone in the interim?
If we DID try something and it didn't work out i think we are both the type of people who would be ok with that. We have talked alot about that stuff- about how we aren't jealous types, we don't hold a grudge against our exes, that sort of thing. I think we could handle it.
But i am just scared to make that first move. Thats a big dangler, there, if he doesn't feel the same. It would be so uncomfortable to be in my own home then, you know? it would be so embarrassing.
Any advice for the crushing?
Ok... Lets get this straight...
You live in a motor home in the back of a Victorian home you rent...
"Crushing hard on roommate" is your thread and its a "big dangler" whether to make the first move?
I don't mean to read into this and expose my naughty mind but....
With him moving out, I'd say go for it. If it doesn't work out, he'll be gone shortly so any embarrassment will be short lived. If it initially works, but you break up later, his moving will solve any problems.
Back in my days of needing to have roommates (out of financial necessity, in college and grad school), I always made sure not to choose ones I was attracted to. That's a recipe for disaster, IMO.
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