I couldn't get an erection when I was with her

[supermanpansy]

Originally Posted by alaskaboy

All of us guys experience performance anxiety from time to time. Nothing to fret about and any understanding woman knows this. I doubt from what you have described, she dumped you due to a single performance issues. But then again, I've seen it happen.

I would suggest using an aid like Viagra etc if you find yourself in this situation again. Use it the first few times to get past the anxiety phase. Once that little performance issues creeps in, it's difficult to get past it. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. And not to be an ass, but if you read many posts on this forum, many women here only date guys with large members. Maybe you didn't meet her expectations that way? Who knows, but move on, plenty of fish to fry!

I agree with this one hundred percent. Every guy at one point or another will have performance issues. It could be something as simple as being tired or that they have cleaned their pipes close to the time that they have had sex. It also after it can happen once, can turn into a "mental" thing for many guys. You literally psyche' yourself out. A good woman will understand this. I think god, made men and woman with a funny twist in mind. Woman start to reach their sexual peak when men start to lose theirs. Men have to put a lot of effort into it. Some woman just lay there. Woman can have multiple orgasms, us guys can't. We can with enough recoup time in between, but that's about it. It was like twenty minutes when I was in my teens, twenties. Now, it's more like an hour or the next day. It is what it is. God definitely has a sense of humor.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by FLgirl727

You weren't feeling it, simple as that. The relationship you had with this woman, after only 3 dates, is not strong enough to make up for the hit to her self esteem.

Men will pretty much do anything in a skirt. Women know that. So you not being able to do her, pretty much doomed it no matter what interest she may have had in you.

Don't stress over it, it's just one girl. Just take it slower next time, and don't put so much pressure on yourself.

"is not strong enough to make up for the hit to her self esteem."

Good points all the way around. It basically implies that she must be extremely undesireable when a guy can't achieve an erection when shes naked and ready to go.

[noelle41]

I dont think she'd put you off just because you couldnt get an erection. I really think she just wasnt into you. Move on to the next one : )