I couldn't get an erection when I was with her (dating, women)
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Last night, I went to dinner with this woman whom I was attracted to. It was our third date. We had appetizers and drinks, and we talked for awhile about her time with her daughter on Halloween. We also talked about future careers and applying for jobs. Everything was going great at dinner. We went to my apartment afterwards and had some wine. We kissed and I tasted her breasts and made love to her in many ways. It was the first time I made love to this person beyond kissing. But after we took our clothes off, I tried to have sex with her, but I couldn't get an erection. She wanted the lights off and I could tell that she was frustrated that I couldn't get hard. When I knew that she was frustrated, I then panicked. Mod cut: Not PG-13. I asked her to spend the night, but she said that she can't spend the night. She left after we were at my place for about an hour. It was difficult to go to bed that night. I think that I woke up early this morning, but I later went back to sleep after searching for answers on Google. I texted her after I woke up the second time and asked if I could call her. She replied that she was going to pick up her daughter for eye appointment and then watch the football game with friends. She texted me back and then said that she thinks that I am a pretty neat guy just not the guy for her. She said that it's nothing personal. I told her that I know that I couldn't perform last night but I was just nervous since it was our first time together. I texted her and told her that this happened to me a year ago but the lady who dated me then still dated me and we were able to have sex after later dates. I made it clear that I can perform, and I told her that I felt like I failed last night, and she said that it wasn't because of that and she was looking for something that wasn't there. She told me the week before that she only wanted to be friends but I asked her to give me another chance, and I felt that she was giving me another chance on this third date. But this is the first time we tried to have sex. But obviously, she was interested if we had dinner again last night and especially since we tried to have sex afterwards. I kept wondering this morning if it was too much alcohol or was it because I worked both jobs last night and needed some sleep. I did masturbate a couple times about 4 days ago. I don't know what to think. I am sorry for the long message. Honestly, if we only had dinner last night and nothing else after that, and she then broke up with me today, I would have just moved on and not worried about all this. I just need some advice on this.
Too much booze for starters. You had liquor **** and were also nervous. You also did self pleasure soon to the deed. You should have waited longer and built it up. It would have been much more sensitive. Combine all of these things and the outcome won't end well.
What you should have done was step off, go relax and do something else to mellow out. You panicked and it won't work during times of "panic",
Do you think you can get wood while someone is shooting at you? Hell no you can't....mellow out dude.
Also, if "she" does it for ya, should start to get ready as soon as she touches it or stimulates you in some way.
If a woman is interested in you you don't have to beg. She isn't interested so move. Just as your not into her. Move on there are too many women on the planet.
She said that it wasn't about that and that it wasn't a failure. But what do I do about this. I was able to have sex with a lady whom I dated for about 2 months, so I know that I can perform. Maybe I should just drink less alcohol. I haven't gone to the gym as often, and I drink coffee at my full-time job during the weekdays. I wish I hadn't masturbated to porn earlier in the week, but I swear that I didn't know that she would come to my place after dinner last night. I didn't expect to have the sudden opportunity last night. Now I feel so insecure after all this. Honestly, if we only had dinner last night and she hadn't come by my place afterwards, I wouldn't have worried about her breaking this off the next day.
For guys who "have trouble" you have to let it build up. Sorta like stoking the boiler and watching pressure build. If you crack the relief valve every 5 minutes, it's not as easy to keep things "warm". Less circulating pressure.
Had he waited 1.5-2 weeks? As soon as she touched it.....I bet.
Pop a pill in that situation. Even the pros (porn stars do). As long as its only occasionally, no problem.
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