Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
26,700 posts, read 41,727,010 times
Reputation: 41381
Quote:
Originally Posted by kgordeeva
So me and my boyfriend just had a huge argument about this and I'm interested in hearing people's viewpoints. Last night, I went out with a girlfriend for dinner and drinks. At around midnight, we went back to her place and I felt pretty tired from drinking and just decided to crash at her place. I live in Chicago and her place is like a 40 minute train ride from my apartment.
When I called my boyfriend (who I live with) last night to tell him I was staying over, he went ballistic. He said he didn't like it at all didn't think it was right for a grown woman to spend the night at a friend's house. He even told me he'd pay for my cab if I just came home. After arguing for a few minutes, I told him I was staying and that I would be home in the morning.
Is it me or is he overreacting? I just find this so weird. He also didn't like the fact that I've only known this girl for a couple months and that he's only met her once.
It ain't you. I would rather have my significant other at a friend's house safely inside with someone she trusts enough than her trying to get home to me under the influence of alcohol by herself where who knows what can happen. Your boyfriend is very much overreacting and controlling.
Sounds like he has jealousy issues. But come on I even thought bad things and I don't know you.
Wait are you bi?
If not he is a control freak.
Lol no I'm not bi. He really doesn't act like this all the time, but he always wants me with him in bed at night. It's weird how clingy a grown man can be.
Wait, seriously??? I assumed it was an opposite-sex friend but he has an issue with you staying over at a same sex friends place?
Hell, I wouldn't even have an issue with my guy staying over at another woman's house but I'd have even less of an issue with him staying over at one of his guy friend's houses.
I'll also echo zentropa above, I'm nearly 30 and back home all of us gals would get together and have sleepovers fairly often. In fact, I'm starting to plan a big one when I go back home in the spring
Yeah.. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks he was being weird. He just thinks it's strange for grown women to have sleepovers, I guess. lol.
You made the right decision. He is heavily overreacting.
Does he have trust issues? You need to ask him what about your actions upset him. He needs to be more specific. Does he not like it because he thinks you need to spend more time with him? Does he think you are seeing other men? Does he think it's immature behavior?
If you have a normal relationship outside of this (you've never cheated, you're not a druggie, etc), then he might just be a controlling jerk. How long have you been with this guy?
I don't he really has trust issues. He knows I would never cheat on him. I think he think it's just immature behavior, which I will never understand. I've been with him for six years. He is just always worried about me and thinks I'm this delicate little flower.
Lol no I'm not bi. He really doesn't act like this all the time, but he always wants me with him in bed at night. It's weird how clingy a grown man can be.
Hmmm.....then he just missed you? Sleeps better with you?
Yeah.. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks he was being weird. He just thinks it's strange for grown women to have sleepovers, I guess. lol.
I was actually just thinking that I should rent a room in a friend's house just so I wouldn't have to make long drives home at night. My husband would definitely worry less.
So me and my boyfriend just had a huge argument about this and I'm interested in hearing people's viewpoints. Last night, I went out with a girlfriend for dinner and drinks. At around midnight, we went back to her place and I felt pretty tired from drinking and just decided to crash at her place. I live in Chicago and her place is like a 40 minute train ride from my apartment.
When I called my boyfriend (who I live with) last night to tell him I was staying over, he went ballistic. He said he didn't like it at all didn't think it was right for a grown woman to spend the night at a friend's house. He even told me he'd pay for my cab if I just came home. After arguing for a few minutes, I told him I was staying and that I would be home in the morning.
Is it me or is he overreacting? I just find this so weird. He also didn't like the fact that I've only known this girl for a couple months and that he's only met her once.
Time to get a new boyfriend. That should serve as a huge red flag. The guy is obviously mega possessive. Would he rather you had driven home late and potentially intoxicated?
Personally, I would say that he is overreacting. I don't see why exactly this should matter to him unless he thinks that you might be bi or a lesbian.
Honestly, I personally wouldn't care if my future spouse did this just as long as there was no actual romance (kissing, sex, et cetera) between her and anyone else.
You made a good decision, and stayed safe. However, how does he know you didn't hook up with some guy while visiting your friend? Staying over with her could as easily have been an excuse to cheat on him, and I wouldn't be surprised if that was what he was thinking.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
