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My wife is, and I haven't quite pinpointed it yet. Not sure if it has to do with her upbringing?? Her mother never really showed much "sexuality". And the father, a little odd, a total dork, and sometime inappropriate comments at the wrong time.
Here is the question: have you ever known a woman who was uncomfortable talking about sex? If so, was it ever revealed as to why they were? Any ideas why someone would be uncomfortable about it?
have you ever known a woman who was uncomfortable talking about sex? If so, was it ever revealed as to why they were? Any ideas why someone would be uncomfortable about it?
yes, no and nothing worth mentioning. it can definitely be a bit frustrating, although best not to let that show if possible. good luck man
Some women are brought up to believe that you don't talk about such things. I have a friend that is Prudey McPrude about that stuff. I don't know how she feels about talking about sex with her partner, but she would walk away if it came up in a group of friends. Who knows...
My wife is, and I haven't quite pinpointed it yet. Not sure if it has to do with her upbringing?? Her mother never really showed much "sexuality". And the father, a little odd, a total dork, and sometime inappropriate comments at the wrong time.
Here is the question: have you ever known a woman who was uncomfortable talking about sex? If so, was it ever revealed as to why they were? Any ideas why someone would be uncomfortable about it?
It's about upbringing and closest environment/friends. It's very much a private thing in my opinion as well, but the times of big brother, Kardashians and their boyfriends have hit pretty much every pore of society, so I guess that my opinion is on its way out and I guess the hilarious part is that people still see display of sexual behavior as problematic even though they promote it and endorse it, plus they see you as a weird person if you don't follow the new "norms".
By the way, I really doubt that you didn't know what kind of reasoning does your wife have before you ended up marrying her. I hope this isn't one of those topics where you have figured out that you aren't compatible with your wife even though you probably deliberately searched for a profile of a person like her.
Wow, you are married and you don't know the answer to this?
It can be like folks said, raised to think sex is bad. But more often, IME, it's about being raised to think that asking for what she wants in any context, not just in bed, is not ok.
Or she may have been raised that talking about sexuality is like talking about poop -- ok, you probably don't understand that one either, since you don't know about women -- how about it is like talking about details of her menstrual flow. The clots and stuff. Anyway, something that is not bad, but is not appropriate to talk about out loud.
Work with her on asking for the things she wants outside of bed, and you giving them to her, not arguing. And, in bed, maybe she can show you without words.
If you get both these two going for a year or so, then she might feel better about talking .
They were raised to think, directly or indirectly, that sex is bad, to be kept secret, etc.
Or maybe simply that it's a very private matter only to be done with intimate person and not emulating monkeys. I'm impressed to see that several major media sources are using some dirty, disease-ridden species living in a jungle as an example that such behavior should be encouraged and logic say that everything from previous generations should be destroyed.
You know, this is not a forum for it, but communists had lots of good projects. Unfortunately, "new democrats" (generally just the folks switching their political shirts) decided not only to "expose" terrible things that were a taboo and pulled under carpet, but they also decided to tear down lots of great things... because the intention was to deal with every remnant of that system, showing that everything was terrible, worth of despise, and that it should end on garbage-can of human history. This is why they needed to destroy all the good things that occurred in post-ww2 era under communist rule. In the process of doing that, they made sure to use the same brainwashing methods as communists, they never wanted to give up on media-brainwashing done by the previous generation - oh well, they were the ex-communists after all.
You see, I see the same thing in here. "New" upbringing has the need to mark everything that once was a standard as backwards, retarded, useless, worth of despise, and make it into a public mockery to "feed" the army of their media-brainwashed supporters with an acceptable kicking can. This is how the "social change" happened by changing not only the thing that everyone would agree that it needed change. No, they wanted to deal with every norm of living, to alter the public opinion completely and imprint a new standard of behavior, standard that would be completely estranged with anything from previous social norms.
That's why meeting such woman looks like meeting someone who lives in a wrong century. But an ironic thing is that lots of guys seek such woman when they seek for a relationship, only to lament how she doesn't fit their way of living. I'd say they want to take on both types of living - because they want the thrills of new way of living, but they want the old standard where private life was very predictable and simple. Maybe they just want a doormat whom they know that she won't "be around", while they will resort to the old ways once they get bored of monotonous life at their home.
I totally understand this. My parents wanted to avoid the topic all together. My mom is also kinda private. This was not a convo we had at home at all. And my mom also had a very specific idea about how "ladies" behave. And that definitely means keep what happens in the bedroom to yourself.
As a result, I know it takes me a while to feel comfortable talking about it with a partner. It's not necessarily bad, but definitely not for public consumption.
My gf is the same way..But she'll open up in the occasional round of naughty texting
Start slow with goofy stuff like "I can't wait to butter yo' biscuit".
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