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Thank you for all your responses. I was feeling very discouraged, so I appreciate the comments... but I will just chalk it up to him being a sleezebag jerk. Who wants to deal with this crap on a new job? That's life...
So funny Lilac110, I actually did date a minor league baseball player. I have a great pic with him too. Lol.
Thank you, Jan. I have tough skin. I'm a native New Yorker. LOL... I just want to do my job and that's it. I don't want to be harassed again. When I started working 10 years ago, a senior guy would come on to me, and one day slapped me on my butt. I thought I set him straight, but he continued. I asked to be moved and I was. It still continued. It stopped when my new boss (a female) actually witnessed him.
If this escalates, and I hope and pray it doesn't, I'll take it to HR. My question is more basic than that. Bottom line, why do married men behave this way?
If it's bothering you enough for you to post here, why in the world would you wait until it escalates? If it's as big a deal as you're making it here, you'll nip it in the bud now.
Hi. This is my first post. I finally, after being a lurker for many years, decided to post.
I started a new job. I am professional, don't dress provocatively, don't flirt, nothing like that. There is a married guy who calls me for the most ridiculous things - things he could easily find himself... He's worked here for more than 8 years. Yesterday, he came to my office, dressed very professionally, but fishing for compliments on how he's was dressed...(really? Gimme a break) He delivered a document to me that he could have scanned via email. Anyway, he was about to ask me out, and I brought up his wife... So he dropped it all together.
What is it with these married men? I'm single, but I find it very insulting that a man would think I would go out with him if he's married. This isn't the first time this has happened to mean a work situation. I never will date a married man. I've seen first hand the consequences of that behavior. My dad left my mom for a girl he met on his job, who could be my sister. But that's another story for another time. Needless to say, I never want to anything like HER.
Please help me understand this. I'm looking for honesty. Why do married men do this? It scares me as a single woman. Will my future husband pull this crap? Any honest advice on how I can avoid this in the future would be appreciated.
I can't help much...either I'm over 60, married and a pervert or I'm a 14 year old kid playing online.
Actually I think this whole thing is pretty funny. Swap the compliments about her eyes/smile for a compliment about a tie or haircut on a man and this whole thing would be completely acceptable in some fields.
It can be argued that a haircut or choice in tie is an extension of personality, but these are external things that are done with an effort to look good. Compliments would be expected. A person's smile and eyes are a part of them, things that cannot be changed without plastic surgery. Compliment a person's eyes and you are complimenting them...not their choice in attire or barber.
You know that is true. Here is a test: next time your business hires a new male, go up to him, compliment him on smile/eyes then ask him if he'd like to go to dinner. Of course you won't do that...you know exactly what he will be thinking.
With all due respect, you must be a teenager. This is nothing new, lol
It's something I've gotten used to, since the age of 15.
Asking why is pointless.
Having morals & avoiding the temptation to allow them to romance you is what you need to be focused on.
Just tell him you think he's a pushy creep. Guaranteed way to get a man to stop making eye contact with you and avoid you when possible in the workplace. If you can't say it to his face, tell one of your female coworkers who knows him to pass it on.
The "C" word is your best weapon in the workplace when it comes to these types of situations.
Hi. This is my first post. I finally, after being a lurker for many years, decided to post.
I started a new job. I am professional, don't dress provocatively, don't flirt, nothing like that. There is a married guy who calls me for the most ridiculous things - things he could easily find himself... He's worked here for more than 8 years. Yesterday, he came to my office, dressed very professionally, but fishing for compliments on how he's was dressed...(really? Gimme a break) He delivered a document to me that he could have scanned via email. Anyway, he was about to ask me out, and I brought up his wife... So he dropped it all together.
What is it with these married men? I'm single, but I find it very insulting that a man would think I would go out with him if he's married. This isn't the first time this has happened to mean a work situation. I never will date a married man. I've seen first hand the consequences of that behavior. My dad left my mom for a girl he met on his job, who could be my sister. But that's another story for another time. Needless to say, I never want to anything like HER.
Please help me understand this. I'm looking for honesty. Why do married men do this? It scares me as a single woman. Will my future husband pull this crap? Any honest advice on how I can avoid this in the future would be appreciated.
I haven't been around here for a while but I dropped by today and found this thread. I am a man but I can only speak.for myself and offer an opinion which will upset some people around here but it is my very own opinion and does not represent anyone else's opinion. Men can be horrible.creatures, I started a thread several months ago that caused so much controversy that it was closed, I never thought that would ever happened to one of my threads. On that thread I spoke about a reality that I beleive affects a lot of men and that could be one of the reasons why your situation with that men exists.
In your mind that may be so, but in a man's world, sometimes it's the conquest of loving someone new that appeals to us. Nothing personal, just lust at the moment. Chances are: this won't be too permanent unless your extremely good.
Never gonna happen. The Grand Canyon exists between men and women.
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