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I think it's a combination of this^. As well as some people just think that they know it all. They don't know how to have "healthy" relationships, so they think that nobody does. When you tell them otherwise, to them you must be lying or that there must be some other reason. In truth there's a lot of bitter people in life who choose to stay that way for whatever reason. Perhaps, it works for them, and they are comfortable in their little "I know everything about women, men, etc" b.s world and it gets very old. Newsflash, nobody knows everything about the other sex. Heck, the older I get, the less I know.
No, im not the only one. There are other truth seekers out there, but it takes time and effort and it reveals itself only a bit at a time. It comes at a cost, that's for sure.
Like someone has already said, it's a defense mechanism. It's so much easier to blame the "system" than own up to your own mistakes. So instead of admitting that you made a mistake in your choice of a partner, you tell yourself it wasn't a mistake because in fact, all men or women are like this.
In my opinion, people in general don't necessarily focus on the negative experiences more, as there is unquantifiable amount of wisdom to learn from any type of experience, good or bad. Perhaps fixating on the bad experiences, allows a person to feel safer, because by keeping these experiences fresh it allows a person to avoid similar type experience from repeating itself in the future. Positive experiences can be analyzed, learned from ad stored away in memory banks, because their return would likely be welcome.
As for the truth, everyone has their own version of truth, and its all based on their own life experiences. Then, there is The Truth. Follow that, there is only one.
Your Truth is you are a little punk ass coward who calls people "manginas" online but doesn't have the guts to do it to their faces. Now, go run and cry to the monitors and report me again, little boy.
Your Truth is you are a little punk ass coward who calls people "manginas" online but doesn't have the guts to do it to their faces. Now, go run and cry to the monitors and report me again, little boy.
They're generally not idiots, but yes confirmation bias often is involved. Other catchphrases - depressive realism and loss aversion. I think many of the bitter people are trying to do good and promote change by speaking so-called truth.
I've noticed that most people can have a whole series of good relationships (or at least decent ones) and not come away from those relationships thinking they've gleaned any great insights into the opposite sex or the human condition.
But let someone have a few bad relationships, and suddenly they think they know The Truth. They suddenly know women are all shallow and materialistic. They suddenly know men are all players who get off on humiliating women. And so on. And they tend to get very militant about it. They feel some desperate need to spread their Truth to everyone else, and become angry and belligerent with those who question or disagree with them.
I am just curious as to why so many people seem to give so much more weight to bad experiences than to good ones.
You're speaking The Truth.
No one really knows anything.
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