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So I recently met this guy (his name is A). From history, A broke of with his ex-gf in the summer, but she's still in his life. They see each other from time to time. Recently, we became interested in each other. I really like him, but not sure how his relationship situation will affect us.
In other words, when I get out of a relationship, I usually give myself time to recover and be by myself for awhile. With him, I don't feel like he had given him much time. The problem is, I did not get the information from him but from another source. Before you jump on me about why not talk to him. I don't think it's the right time yet. And I don't feel like it's my place to ask either. We are not ready to be exclusive or anything. But I need to give him a "go" light and I am not sure how emotionally invest I should be.
Do you personal experience you want to share? Or advice on how to handle the situation?
It's a good sign that he's still friends with his ex.
My personal rule of thumb is that I don't consider someone for a serious relationship until at least 18 months after their last serious relationship ended, and 2 years is better. Casual is ok, sooner.
It's a good sign that he's still friends with his ex.
Please explain. Because I believe it's a terrible sign and makes it highly likely that they'll eventually cheat on you with their ex when certain "feelings" start popping up again.
It's a good sign that he's still friends with his ex.
My personal rule of thumb is that I don't consider someone for a serious relationship until at least 18 months after their last serious relationship ended, and 2 years is better. Casual is ok, sooner.
18 months to 2 years? Wow, isn't that possible for any man to be single that long?
It's a good sign that he's still friends with his ex.
My personal rule of thumb is that I don't consider someone for a serious relationship until at least 18 months after their last serious relationship ended, and 2 years is better. Casual is ok, sooner.
It's like when looking for a new job, the interviewer will ask about your previous employment. If you speak poorly about your previous employer or the relationship with the previous employer is strained, the prospective employer will probably ask themselves why.
So I recently met this guy (his name is A). From history, A broke of with his ex-gf in the summer, but she's still in his life. They see each other from time to time. Recently, we became interested in each other. I really like him, but not sure how his relationship situation will affect us.
In other words, when I get out of a relationship, I usually give myself time to recover and be by myself for awhile. With him, I don't feel like he had given him much time. The problem is, I did not get the information from him but from another source. Before you jump on me about why not talk to him. I don't think it's the right time yet. And I don't feel like it's my place to ask either. We are not ready to be exclusive or anything. But I need to give him a "go" light and I am not sure how emotionally invest I should be.
Do you personal experience you want to share? Or advice on how to handle the situation?
He broke up with his ex in, say August, still sees her, and now, you want a relationship with him? Oh my. I would say hell no. It is too soon. Doesn't sound serious about you anyway.
So I recently met this guy (his name is A). From history, A broke of with his ex-gf in the summer, but she's still in his life. They see each other from time to time. Recently, we became interested in each other. I really like him, but not sure how his relationship situation will affect us.
In other words, when I get out of a relationship, I usually give myself time to recover and be by myself for awhile. With him, I don't feel like he had given him much time. The problem is, I did not get the information from him but from another source. Before you jump on me about why not talk to him. I don't think it's the right time yet. And I don't feel like it's my place to ask either. We are not ready to be exclusive or anything. But I need to give him a "go" light and I am not sure how emotionally invest I should be.
Do you personal experience you want to share? Or advice on how to handle the situation?
If his ex dumped him then he is hanging on hoping.
What funymann said, this isn't about your relationship with him, it is about how committed he can be with you. Don't get emotionally entangled, he's not that into you. He has little exclusivity and their relationship isn't 'done.' He's not looking for you. You like him but he's not really interested save perhaps for a little horizontal tango. No, he doesn't scream playa, but guys will take a physical relationship without being emotionally settled. Hes not settled, which is why you are 'on deck.'
Don't go there.
And by the title of this thread, that's wishful thinking for an ideal you want him to make. No, don't go there. It's your life to live, not his to become your marionette.
So I recently met this guy (his name is A). From history, A broke of with his ex-gf in the summer, but she's still in his life. They see each other from time to time. Recently, we became interested in each other. I really like him, but not sure how his relationship situation will affect us.
In other words, when I get out of a relationship, I usually give myself time to recover and be by myself for awhile. With him, I don't feel like he had given him much time. The problem is, I did not get the information from him but from another source. Before you jump on me about why not talk to him. I don't think it's the right time yet. And I don't feel like it's my place to ask either. We are not ready to be exclusive or anything. But I need to give him a "go" light and I am not sure how emotionally invest I should be.
Do you personal experience you want to share? Or advice on how to handle the situation?
I think it depends on the situation and person you are involved with.
I know a guy who fall in love with a girl very quickly after his eight years of relationship ended. Under normal circumstances, people would assume the new relationship is nothing but a rebound. Truth is they stayed together for financial purposes for the last three years, they stopped love making or even communicating with each other. So for this guy, he has already gone through the grief process. Why wait when you no longer have any feelings towards the ex.
In your case, if he still talks to her, you probably want to find out if he still has feelings toward his ex. If I were you, I'd take my time without investing too much emotion.
Good luck to you.
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