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Old 12-03-2013, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Illinois
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As far as online dating goes, a lot of men say they are tired of always being the one to initiate contact.

For a lot of women the one line, generic email is not something that catches our attention: "Hey" "What's up?" "Hello, how are you?" etc. I would never send a first contact email like that.

So how would you like a woman to contact you online? What would catch your attention and show she's really interested?
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Old 12-03-2013, 05:58 PM
 
Location: Indiana
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As far as online dating goes, a lot of men say they are tired of always being the one to initiate contact.

For a lot of women the one line, generic email is not something that catches our attention: "Hey" "What's up?" "Hello, how are you?" etc. I would never send a first contact email like that.

So how would you like a woman to contact you online? What would catch your attention and show she's really interested?
I've never seriously done online dating, I did half ass it a while ago. From that and what I see on here I'd say it doesn't really matter what you say as long as you say something that can be turned into a conversation.
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Old 12-03-2013, 06:00 PM
 
Location: Southern Illinois
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I've never seriously done online dating, I did half ass it a while ago. From that and what I see on here I'd say it doesn't really matter what you say as long as you say something that can be turned into a conversation.
Yeah you can't go wrong asking a question that shows you read their profile.
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Old 12-03-2013, 06:27 PM
 
Location: If I tell you, will you visit?
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As far as online dating goes, a lot of men say they are tired of always being the one to initiate contact.

For a lot of women the one line, generic email is not something that catches our attention: "Hey" "What's up?" "Hello, how are you?" etc. I would never send a first contact email like that.

So how would you like a woman to contact you online? What would catch your attention and show she's really interested?
Hard to answer that...I would expect that she likely make references to let me know she at least read my profile. I would also be more receptive to some one who doesn't use shorthand when they write, or have a bunch of nonsensical words because they type to fast. If you want to make an impression on me, I want to know that you took the time to at least proof what you wrote. Is that petty?
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Old 12-03-2013, 06:38 PM
 
Location: The High Seas
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"Hi sailor, what you wearin'. Got at least one hand free?"

Something philosophical like that.
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Old 12-03-2013, 06:41 PM
 
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Not at all, really.

In a sea of women, I can approach. It's more efficient. I get what I want that way.
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Old 12-03-2013, 08:06 PM
 
Location: Pa
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As far as online dating goes, a lot of men say they are tired of always being the one to initiate contact.

For a lot of women the one line, generic email is not something that catches our attention: "Hey" "What's up?" "Hello, how are you?" etc. I would never send a first contact email like that.

So how would you like a woman to contact you online? What would catch your attention and show she's really interested?
That's funny on here I was told men don't like women who makes advances.
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Old 12-03-2013, 08:41 PM
 
Location: Richmond VA
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I've met plenty of men online dating who don't contact women. I think they are just chicken. But when I contact them, they go out with me.

When I contact a guy, I usually mention something about their profile that interested me, suggest they take a look at my profile and contact me if they are interested. What else could I possibly say?
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Old 12-03-2013, 08:49 PM
 
Location: If I tell you, will you visit?
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I've met plenty of men online dating who don't contact women. I think they are just chicken. But when I contact them, they go out with me.

When I contact a guy, I usually mention something about their profile that interested me, suggest they take a look at my profile and contact me if they are interested. What else could I possibly say?
Well said
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Old 12-03-2013, 09:33 PM
 
Location: Illinois
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Hard to answer that...I would expect that she likely make references to let me know she at least read my profile. I would also be more receptive to some one who doesn't use shorthand when they write, or have a bunch of nonsensical words because they type to fast. If you want to make an impression on me, I want to know that you took the time to at least proof what you wrote. Is that petty?
I don't think that's petty at all. I have skipped over profiles full of mistakes, much less an email full of them.
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