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Who the heck would be nervous about making a friend?
Lots of people. People with social anxiety. People who are shy. People who are worried that in this world when a guy approaches a girl for conversation that many girls often jump to the wrong conclusion about his motivations. Still other people fear rejection on any level.... the list goes on.
Do you guys think its wiser to make superficial small talk first, instead of asking a more meaningful question? I read this piece of advice in another thread but I'm not too sure about it..."Anything sincere. What would you say to a guy? You wouldn't force a conversation with a guy because it would be weird. It's the same thing. Pretend you are talking to one of your guy friends." I know going with your gut is probably the best advice...but I've thought about it too much now and I've lost sight of what my gut even is...lol
Do you guys think its wiser to make superficial small talk first, instead of asking a more meaningful question? I read this piece of advice in another thread but I'm not too sure about it..."Anything sincere. What would you say to a guy? You wouldn't force a conversation with a guy because it would be weird. It's the same thing. Pretend you are talking to one of your guy friends." I know going with your gut is probably the best advice...but I've thought about it too much now and I've lost sight of what my gut even is...lol
roxy, quit over-thinking this and creating so much extra anxiety for yourself!
Just keep things simple, not forced or rehearsed.
Look for an opportunity to say whatever is appropriate in that moment that you run in to her.
Ex - if it's snowing a blizzard outside you say, how about that global warming? LOL
Okay, not being totally serious here, just trying to loosen you up a bit ok?
The important thing is to make contact - SPEAK TO HER - then the next day DO IT AGAIN.
Feel like the gods are playing with me... yesterday turns out she was behind me in the crosswalk and by the time I realized she was there the doors of a building had closed behind her....today I waited outside class early to talk and reference this episode but jeez she's always talking to someone else...I guess I'll have to try to interject without being rude if it keeps being this impossible to talk to her alone. #fiascothatdoesn'tneedtobeafiasco
Feel like the gods are playing with me... yesterday turns out she was behind me in the crosswalk and by the time I realized she was there the doors of a building had closed behind her....today I waited outside class early to talk and reference this episode but jeez she's always talking to someone else...I guess I'll have to try to interject without being rude if it keeps being this impossible to talk to her alone. #fiascothatdoesn'tneedtobeafiasco
just a tip...try making eye contact and smiling BEFORE you speak to her. But DO speak to her
I keep waiting to catch her alone before class (cause I've seen her wait in the past alone)...but iz not happening now. I feel like I would know exactly what to do in this situation, but when she's already talking to someone it's harder... guess if I can't catch her alone I should try to sit closer in class and tactfully socialize. Are there any options here I'm not seeing? ugh..this is a terrible feeling not unlike when you're trying to reach something on top of a tall bookshelf...and you're so close but nope...
finally managed to exchange a few words with her. was walking from class to bus and noticed she was behind me. said something like "hey, i feel like its silly that we never talk" then she said
"yeah it is silly...i guess people kind of get in their zones" we had just taken a test...so we asked each other how we thought we did...etc. course during and after the conversation I kept thinking it was going horribly...but its hard to know how much of that is my crazy goggles. Anyway...least I managed to make words come out of my mouth...lol...I really just need to learn how to maintain perspective while I'm socializing.
Lots of people. People with social anxiety. People who are shy. People who are worried that in this world when a guy approaches a girl for conversation that many girls often jump to the wrong conclusion about his motivations. Still other people fear rejection on any level.... the list goes on.
I swear, I think this happened to me this semester. I tried making a new female friend who's in two of my classes. For some odd reason, she took me having a conversation with her as a romantic interest (even though I did and said nothing to say I was interested in her like that), and now ignores me whenever she looks at me. Every time we see each other in the hall way or what not, she quickly looks down and walks away quickly. I've contemplated going up to her and telling her what her issue is, but I figure that it isn't even worth it. Some women are just weird.
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