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I have been all over Greenwich and I have not known a building with 28 floors. Maybe in Stamford.
And even if you went to the city, it's too much of a hassle carrying food.
This is a hoax post.
Or is he working in white plains or stamford?
Dudes F their secretaries in the office in the 80s and in naughty america porn videos. There's plenty of places elsewhere, for real champs, not the office
I know people IRL that have sex at work. Lunchtime, whenever. It is quite possible.
It very possible. But I have no idea of the buildings in samford (sp?)
Anywho, OP, just get divorced. You are still quite young, and there are other men out there to date.
Just try not to make your life revolve around having a man in it. You are a mom now, and commit your life to that. If you meet a great guy along the way, then bonus. But take time to emotionally and mentally heal these wounds. Let your parents help you here and get on your feet and keep chugging along.
Hello lads & Gents.
My name is Catharina & I've just turned 30 this April 2013.
And this is my story
I have 2 wonderful children (twins) Amber & Kylie; they just turned 1 last week.
I met my husband Dean when I was 22, and he proposed to me 3 years later and got married.
Our life was not that perfect but as every normal relationship we had our ups and down. But apart from that we made a good team.
His parents love me, and my parents adore him for being who he is with his kindness and all.
To me he was the apple of my eye, and I couldn't picture my life without him. We had our fairy tale wedding that we always talked about. We both had a successful carrier. 5 months after our wedding we finally move out in the apartment we were renting, and we bought a beautiful home outside the city. The smell of nature and the view was amazing. After our first wedding anniversary I got pregnant, and we were so happy to have received this baby. He would never miss a doctor appointment for the baby ultra sound. I could still remember I was 4 months pregnant and the doctor told us we would be having twins. It was a big joy, but also a big challenge with 2 babies.
After the twins were born, things started to change. I know that a baby can change a couple lives but I made sure I spend as much time with him as possible. I was ready to give up my carrier for my family and become a full time mum & wife.
While he was at work I cook and clean, so that when he comes home after work everything is done, so that we could talk a little bit. Until he starts having private text messages, run out side to answer his phone, until I asked him what’s wrong. He would just go like “it’s a work thing”.
Few months went by; I took the twins to their appointment. And drop by my parents’ house, where I collect some take out, few seconds my phone ring and its him “babe I’m going to be late tonight love you!” then he hang up. Since I’ve already collected the takeout and I was on my way home with the twins, I decide to give him surprise visit my dropping him some food to eat as he was coming home late.
I quickly rushed to the elevator with the twins in the stroller.
As I reached on the 28th floor, I started to smile really big, as if I was a 5 year old girl going to see Santa!
Finally I reached to his office door and open as I said “surprise” GOD it wasn't the surprise I was expecting to see.
I saw him ****ing his secretary on the couch on the left in his office.
It was like hell came down on me. I just froze their speechless, filled with anger and a broken heart.
I still spoke no words. It’s like something was stuck in my throat it was the worse feeling ever.
I run out and quickly get home, as he didn't stop calling me.
I pack some clothes and some baby clothes with their bottles. I didn't had the courage to drive, I felt really hearth broken.
I couldn't look my own parents in the eye and said he cheated on me. Reached my parents’ house, my dad quickly run outside saw me crying he scream out my mother’s name, she run outside quickly, as my father took the twins inside, all I could do is break down and scream as my mother hold me tight in her arm, for a minute a felt home and secure, but after that It was pain all over again.
I just kept wishing to myself, “I wish I never went their” it’s like the image is a scar in my head that I can’t wipe out …
It’s been 3 weeks now, and I haven’t answered any of his text or call. But he comes to see the twins as my parents let him
I still love him…but I don’t know if I could ever forgive him what he has done to me…
What should I do?? As he claim it was just 1 time and he feels sorry for what he did…..
Please help me guys.
I don’t know what to do ……………………
Not to be unsympathetic - I know you are truly hurting and I am sorry- but you are somebody's mom now, TWO somebodies, who are counting on you, so you simply HAVE to toughen up here.
It's been 3 weeks, the shock should be wearing off and now it's time to use your head and figure out how to move forward okay?
You simply do not have the luxury of hiding out at your parents forever and/or burying your head in the sand.
This is the grownup world honey - time to buck up.
You love him, you guys have created a family, so you fight for that okay?
It IS possible to overcome infidelity like this and build a stronger marriage.
Now, he has to really want that and demonstrate complete remorse and atonement for his cheating, but you have to be willing to try to repair things too - it will take BOTH of you if you are going to fix this.
And you two cannot do this alone.
Get some professional help from a therapist who works with couples dealing with cheating issues.
In the end, you may not ever be able to forgive him and the marriage will be lost forever, but you each have to be able to live with yourselves and know in your hearts you did all you could to come back from this.
Giving up now, before you've tried to get some professional help and understand why this happened, is the easy way out.
As he claim it was just 1 time and he feels sorry for what he did…..
Please help me guys.
I don’t know what to do ……………………
It wasn't just one time. Ask him about the secret text messages, and taking phone calls outside for something that was "just a work thing". He's not sorry for what he did. He's just sorry he got caught.
This seems like a guy who put you in the "Madonna" category after you gave birth. Now he needs to be with someone who's in the opposite category.
Yes, this did read like the start of a romance novel, noting the interest in OP's profile. Assuming this is real, the OP should make note that this isn't likely his first and only time. Something was going on before as you saw the signs. While it's worth a shot to see if anything can be saved with professional help, be prepared for the worst. Also, suspect his truthfulness as he's already lied to you.
Yup. The stilted English and misspellings are a nice touch, though.
"As I reached on the 28th floor, I started to smile really big, as if I was a 5 year old girl going to see Santa!"
Really?
The timeline sounds kind of odd. Poster turned 30 9 months ago. Kids just turned 1. She got pregnant around their first aniversery and she got married at 25. Kids should be at a minimum 3 if not older. Apparently, the poster doesn't know how old her kids are or when she got pregnant
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