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According to the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, 45 percent of women reported a decrease in sexual desire. So 45 percent of husbands don't know what to do in bed...give me a break.
I would never ever want anyone to be put off by what I posted. God forbid a man with a fragile ego realize he might be lacking in his finessing efforts. I doubt it's possible for every male to be a fabulous lover.
I would never ever want anyone to be put off by what I posted. God forbid a man with a fragile ego realize he might be lacking in his finessing efforts. I doubt it's possible for every male to be a fabulous lover.
It really doesn't take much. Men lose interest in pretty much the same numbers as women. It's still a minority of the population that does so, I'd guess.
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I would never ever want anyone to be put off by what I posted. God forbid a man with a fragile ego realize he might be lacking in his finessing efforts. I doubt it's possible for every male to be a fabulous lover.
It isn't possible. Nor is it possible for every woman to be a good lover.
The key is being able to weed out the poor ones early on and then nurture relationships with the good ones.
I would never ever want anyone to be put off by what I posted. God forbid a man with a fragile ego realize he might be lacking in his finessing efforts. I doubt it's possible for every male to be a fabulous lover.
What you posted was fine to me. I am continually amazed by how easily people can get offended by stuff, mind blowing actually.
I've posted this before but you could post pics of a cute little newborn baby or a kitten and some jagoff here is gonna get upset by it or find some kind of fault.......
Women's desire decreases with every year of marriage, according to a recent study. (Of course there are plenty of exceptions, but in general this is true.) There's a boredom effect that contributes to this, especially if neither partner makes an effort to keep things interesting in some way.
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What you posted was fine to me. I am continually amazed by how easily people can get offended by stuff, mind blowing actually.
I've posted this before but you could post pics of a cute little newborn baby or a kitten and some jagoff here is gonna get upset by it or find some kind of fault.......
Women's desire decreases with every year of marriage, according to a recent study. (Of course there are plenty of exceptions, but in general this is true.) There's a boredom effect that contributes to this, especially if neither partner makes an effort to keep things interesting in some way.
I'm not sure if this is the same study I read, hard to tell by your description. It said women begin to get bored with their partner within the first few years, and are "programmed" to seek novelty. So it seems that monogamy, or at least--the long-term variety, doesn't come naturally to either gender.
But I think with effort, a couple can make it work. A relationship needs to be nurtured, it can't be taken for granted that it magically operates on automatic pilot, somehow.
Possibly due to lack of communication with the woman on the man's part. Communication creates a bond.
After years and years of trying...........she's given up.
Hard to find someone attractive if you don't feel close to them anymore even if they are a good husband.
It's not lack of drive, hormones, menopause, etc. Those are just excuses.
Amen, krazykatlady!
I get SO tired of online discussions about sexless marriages because, typically, everything is blamed on the women and their "lack of sex drives" (many online forum users, apparently, are also experts in sexual biology). Comments posted by men seem to come down to two arguments:
First, what a man finds sexually arousing is entirely legitimate and unquestionable ("men are visual creatures"). Therefore, if a husband loses sexual interest in his wife, it's HER fault because she hasn't worked hard enough (on her physical appearance) to keep his interest. His sexual indifference within the marriage is entirely justified.
Second, what a woman finds sexually arousing (emotional intimacy, communication, doing fun activities together, and yes, a good male physique certainly helps) is trivial and nothing more than the silly fantasies of a spoiled princess. Therefore, when a woman loses sexual interest in her husband, there couldn't POSSIBLY be any understandable reason for it, and she's either defiantly "withholding" sex or has lost her sex drive altogether. End of discussion.
BTW, I'm not suggesting that physical appearance doesn't matter. Far from it. Both women AND men have a duty to stay attractive and fit for their mates. Very, very important. But what a woman needs to be able to feel sexually aroused is every bit as legitimate as what a man needs to feel sexually aroused. The truth is, that if a woman no longer desires sex with her husband (even if he's still attractive), there is a reason (s). And in most cases, there is NOTHING lacking in her sex drive. In fact, if anything, her sex drive is probably in overdrive. Believe me, married women can feel every bit as sexually frustrated as do married men.
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