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I was supposed to go on a date tonight, but the woman never returned my call to see when she was coming down for our date. She had originally messaged me on OkCupid last Sunday, and we hit it off pretty well. After about 25 messages between us, I asked her out.
So my questions are:
1. Should I cease contact with her and let her call/text me back?
2. Move on and message other women?
3. Reschedule the date at a later time?
I have never been flaked on before, so I'm just looking for advice on how to handle this properly.
Ehh it happens, I wouldn't worry about it.
Cut off contact with her, find other women. If she apologizes and reschedules.. go for it. Don't push another date on her and don't waste your time asking her back out.
People flake on OKCupid because youre not a real person. I mean you ARE a real person, but communication through that format makes it easier.
Try making plans for a date on a weekday, instead of a Friday or Saturday. Those days are too important to meet a stranger.
That's great advice, another reason is because if you make plans for a weekend night the girl will probably have to cancel plans she has with her friends. Which would then mean possibly admitting she is doing online dating. This can be a problem for many women who are a bit embarrassed about it. Read majority of profiles, most women have some sort of excuse why they're on there haha.
She's prolly not cancelling because of another dude, she's probably cancelling because she's either embarrassed or just wants to hang out with her friends.
You can only connect so much from a few messages online. Don't take it personal.
I say give it 48 hours, unless she contacts you after that and seems genuine in the fact that she's sorry for flaking. If you don't hear from her in 48 hours, then hang it up. You don't want to waste your time on her, when you can be utilizing iyour time getting to know another woman.
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Originally Posted by burgler09
Ehh it happens, I wouldn't worry about it.
Cut off contact with her, find other women. If she apologizes and reschedules.. go for it. Don't push another date on her and don't waste your time asking her back out.
I was supposed to go on a date tonight, but the woman never returned my call to see when she was coming down for our date. She had originally messaged me on OkCupid last Sunday, and we hit it off pretty well. After about 25 messages between us, I asked her out.
So my questions are:
1. Should I cease contact with her and let her call/text me back?
2. Move on and message other women?
3. Reschedule the date at a later time?
I have never been flaked on before, so I'm just looking for advice on how to handle this properly.
How long before the date was to be that you both agreed on a day and time? Did you hear from her at all after it was missed, did you contact her to ask where she was? If she doesn't answer you at all or have a really good answer then I'd move on and look elsewhere.
We both agreed on a day and time Sunday night. I didn't hear from her after it was missed. I called her about an hour before the date just to make sure she was on her way over.
I message more than one person at a time, but few of them ever reply back to me.
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