I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend (girls, love, college)

[brunettegirl145]

I'm in college, and I dated this guy D for a year, and then I broke up with him for three months. During these three months, I didn't know that he still cared about me, I thought that he was completely over me. During those three months, I had a one night stand with one of his friends, C, made out with another of his best friends, T, and then jokingly told K (let's call him) that I wanted to make out with him.

D and I are back together now. I don't know if I should tell D about how I hooked up with some of his friends. I'm afraid it'll hurt him and ruin friendships. I feel like maybe it's not even my secret to tell.

Is it okay to have secrets between yourself and someone you're in a serious relationship with?

[luvmyfloyd]

He's probably got secrets, too, if he hasn't asked you about your escapades during that three months in between. Maybe he slept with some of YOUR friends. How would you like THAT??

Like they say..... Don't ask/don't tell. You thought it was over, but made some bad mistakes by sleeping with his friends, and coming on to a third....... because they may tell him first. You should have thought about "ruining friendships" before you got jiggy with his pals. And it sounds like you are a long way off from knowing what a "serious" relationship is.

For his sake, I hope he finds out and moves on to a decent girl. Sluts are a penny a dozen these days. Maybe you should try having some self-respect and keep your legs together in the future. Guys only USE slutty girls, they don't really love them. What's to love???

You won't find what you really need behind a zipper.

[brunettegirl145]

I didn't sleep with three of them. I slept with one. It was a one night stand. I don't think that should make me a *****.

[Dale Cooper]

You might get more and better response if you asked in the "Relationships" forum.

[animalcrazy]

Technically you were not together when you had the one night stand. I say it's none of his business what you did while he wasn't in the picture. Let it go, learn from your mistakes, and move on.

[juneaubound]

Originally Posted by brunettegirl145

I'm in college, and I dated this guy D for a year, and then I broke up with him for three months. During these three months, I didn't know that he still cared about me, I thought that he was completely over me. During those three months, I had a one night stand with one of his friends, C, made out with another of his best friends, T, and then jokingly told K (let's call him) that I wanted to make out with him.

D and I are back together now. I don't know if I should tell D about how I hooked up with some of his friends. I'm afraid it'll hurt him and ruin friendships. I feel like maybe it's not even my secret to tell.

Is it okay to have secrets between yourself and someone you're in a serious relationship with?

I don't know if you're a s*ut or not, but unless you have questions related to a specific state with the initials I and D, I think that you may be asking the wrong people in the wrong section of the forum.

[NestingTom]

You were free. When you broke up, he had no claim on you. Don't feel bad. It's your body and yours to do whatever you want with. It doesn't make you a s*ut, and it doesn't make you a bad person. His friends are the ones who should feel bad, breaking the "guy code",

[Syringaloid]

Sound like someone needs to go to Planned Parenthood.

[jsun556]

Do the guy a favor and tell him. It'll get out eventually and be only worse later on. It's kinda an unwritten rule. Bad on you for messing around with a friend of an ex and bad on the guy for breaking Bro Code.

[Katnan]

You were broken up, so whether he still had feelings or not doesn't change the fact that you weren't together.

But you might want to consider not hooking up or trying to hook up with all of his friends. Have some self-respect.