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I am actually currently in this position....I'm staying Strong and moving on, I don't believe in revenge, that is for the weak.
Learn from the bad and turn it into positive thoughts for your future......Never regret caring and Loving someone Love is a gift and not something to ever feel ashamed of even if they person you cared and loved didn't really deserve all you gave to them.
But you said consideration is bad. If so, then OK, but that's not my morals..
No, I didn’t. Not asking someone out because you perceive she will not be receptive due to timing is not consideration. It’s arrogance. You don’t know what’s best for her or what she’s feeling about dating right now. She’s the expert on that. Just be honest about your feelings and ask her out. If it’s a bad time for her then she’ll let you know. If she does decline, then is the time to be considerate and drop the subject. It’s not a matter of morals. It’s a matter of emotional honesty.
By circumstances, well they're well-founded ones, like her mother is gravely sick.
Of course, I have to wait until she gets better, but then damn..
You could always ask if you can bring her lunch or a coffee and sit with her for a bit.
That way it is open, personal but not intimate and she can still remain near her Mother if that is where she is at the time.
It would give you both a chance to get to know each other a bit more and give her a short break from her Mother.
Without knowing the specific circumstances though it is tough to give a well informed idea of how to proceed.
No, I didn’t. Not asking someone out because you perceive she will not be receptive due to timing is not consideration. It’s arrogance. You don’t know what’s best for her or what she’s feeling about dating right now. She’s the expert on that. Just be honest about your feelings and ask her out. If it’s a bad time for her then she’ll let you know. If she does decline, then is the time to be considerate and drop the subject. It’s not a matter of morals. It’s a matter of emotional honesty.
I see your point. It's just that I figure she may be weighed down since somebody close to her needs attention.
This is the type of situation that people who know things use to their advantage. Another guy would swoop in and be her rock of support and that could lead to something. You seem a bit more selfish and focused on what you want her to be. I don't think it's going to happen for you guys.
This is the type of situation that people who know things use to their advantage. Another guy would swoop in and be her rock of support and that could lead to something. You seem a bit more selfish and focused on what you want her to be. I don't think it's going to happen for you guys.
so another person who condemns understanding? lol..
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