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Since no one else wants to address your question because they can't get past their own disdain long enough to do so, I will.
The "legitimate" girlfriend married him because she felt like she "won." Yes, lots of women are like that.
I sadly have to agree that is probably what that woman thought when she was "chosen" out of three to be married to your father. I feel very sorry for your mother and that other woman who were left without a partner around to raise the children.
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People weren't thinking straight back in those days; blame it on cocaine.
I think this kind of "situation" happens way more often now.
Getting three women pregnant doesn't mean he had game. One time is all it takes to get pregnant you know. Anyone can "get some" if they really want to. Who knows how they met and what he said or did to sleep with him? Maybe they are the only 3 he has ever been with.
Who cares anyway? If you don't have a problem with it then why ask? Unless you are proud that he was having sex with 3 different women unbeknownst to them without using protection. STD's anyone? Never mind he was a liar since they didn't know that. Or maybe you just wanted to brag because you think he "had game"?
original poster why don't you ask your Mother why she married him anyway, has stayed with him so many years, is over it and how she feels.
My mother is not married to him. He married of my brother's mother.
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All you are doing is making excuses as to why all of this is okay because in your opinion he provided financially so he is a good father and not just a sperm donor.
It takes more than money to be a good father but it only takes a willing partner to be a sperm donor. Unless of course you are donating your sperm for someone else to use then you cannot have an actual partner.
Who says I was just talking about money? He was attentive in his own way, especially taking into aco**** he had a very busy career.
I sadly have to agree that is probably what that woman thought when she was "chosen" out of three to be married to your father. I feel very sorry for your mother and that other woman who were left without a partner around to raise the children.
I think this kind of "situation" happens way more often now.
Considering that particular "partner", I would feel more sorry for the one who ended up with him. The other two dodged a bullet. They dodged the bullet but not the sperm.
I'll let other people rag on your father and instead actually answer your question.
I think harem mentality is deeply rooted in low self-esteem. No way, no how, would I have tolerated that, nor would I have wanted permanent ties to a man like your father. Yay, glad you're here, but if I were your mother, you wouldn't be. I'd have had an abortion and never spoken to your father again. Then again, I wouldn't have gotten knocked up in the first place.
You're saying the OP should have been aborted?
I don't see why -- it sounds like the father provided financial support for the other two kids -- he must have had a pretty good job and the mother he married was desperate enough to have a man that she tolerated living on 1/3 of his income.
Considering that particular "partner", I would feel more sorry for the one who ended up with him.
Hmm they have been together all this time and had two more children after the initial "incident". I have no reason not to believe he has been unfaithful to her, they seem to get along OK.
I'll let other people rag on your father and instead actually answer your question.
I think harem mentality is deeply rooted in low self-esteem. No way, no how, would I have tolerated that, nor would I have wanted permanent ties to a man like your father. Yay, glad you're here, but if I were your mother, you wouldn't be. I'd have had an abortion and never spoken to your father again. Then again, I wouldn't have gotten knocked up in the first place.
I don't blame you for thinking like that but my mother says she has no regrets regarding the pregnancy. She has never badmouthed him in front of me because like I said, when it came to me, she really didn't have much to complain about. He always paid CS on time and came around to pick me up.
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