Long Term relationship Questions to ask yourself so infuation gets out of the way. (dating, long-term)

[Raena77]

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When dating ladies ask yourself these questions. A long term prospect will have many yeses.

Does he treat his family well?
Does he treat others well?
Is he patient with me?
Does he bring out the best in me?
Can he live with my quirky behaviors and traits?
Does he have any*red flags?
Is he a true friend?
Is he open to trying new things and adventures?
Is he open to my perspectives?
Has he introduced me to his family and friends?
Does he include me in all aspects of his life?
Does he add joy to my life?
Do his behaviors and actions match his words?
Does he have integrity (i.e. trustworthy, does what he says and says what he does, etc.)?
Is he ready to settle down with one woman?
Is he looking for a long-term commitment?
Do we have similar goals in life?
Do we share similar morals and values?
Do we have similar financial styles?
Do we communicate openly and respectfully?
Do we truly enjoy each other's company?
Do we add to each other's lives in a positive way?
Does our connection grow stronger each time we see each other?
Are we looking for the same type of relationship?
Do I like how he treats me?
Am I a priority in his life?
Does he respect me?
Do I feel safe around him?
Does he accept me for who I am?
Am I being my authentic self around him?
Can I express myself freely when difficult situations come up?
Do I feel secure when we're together and when we're not together?
Does he inspire me to be the best version of myself?
Is he encouraging and supportive of what I want in life?
Is he genuinely happy for me when good things happen to me?
Can I live with his quirky behaviors and traits?
Do I like him the way he is if he never changes?
Am I having fun with him?
Do I like who I am when I'm with and without him?
Do I feel uplifted when we're together?
Do I feel free to pursue my passions, have alone time, and spend time with friends and family?
Do my family and friends like him?
Do I like his family and friends?
Can I see us growing old together?

[omaraz]

Those are a lot of question

[photogal9]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Relationship Questions To Ask For Long-Term Commitment | Janet Ong Zimmerman | YourTango
When dating ladies ask yourself these questions. A long term prospect will have many yeses.

Does he treat his family well?
Does he treat others well?
Is he patient with me?
Does he bring out the best in me?
Can he live with my quirky behaviors and traits?
Does he have any*red flags?
Is he a true friend?
Is he open to trying new things and adventures?
Is he open to my perspectives?
Has he introduced me to his family and friends?
Does he include me in all aspects of his life?
Does he add joy to my life?
Do his behaviors and actions match his words?
Does he have integrity (i.e. trustworthy, does what he says and says what he does, etc.)?
Is he ready to settle down with one woman?
Is he looking for a long-term commitment?
Do we have similar goals in life?
Do we share similar morals and values?
Do we have similar financial styles?
Do we communicate openly and respectfully?
Do we truly enjoy each other's company?
Do we add to each other's lives in a positive way?
Does our connection grow stronger each time we see each other?
Are we looking for the same type of relationship?
Do I like how he treats me?
Am I a priority in his life?
Does he respect me?
Do I feel safe around him?
Does he accept me for who I am?
Am I being my authentic self around him?
Can I express myself freely when difficult situations come up?
Do I feel secure when we're together and when we're not together?
Does he inspire me to be the best version of myself?
Is he encouraging and supportive of what I want in life?
Is he genuinely happy for me when good things happen to me?
Can I live with his quirky behaviors and traits?
Do I like him the way he is if he never changes?
Am I having fun with him?
Do I like who I am when I'm with and without him?
Do I feel uplifted when we're together?
Do I feel free to pursue my passions, have alone time, and spend time with friends and family?
Do my family and friends like him?
Do I like his family and friends?
Can I see us growing old together?

Raena- that's an excellent list, a good refresher as I have known of these before. I answered almost "No" to tall of them, that's why I am moving on from the relationship. I'd much rather be alone, I'm better company

ETA: The last two are extremely important. I came to find out that a family member doesn't like him and I've noticed I have avoided his family for a good 6 months(his parents fight like cats & dogs, crazy they will be "celebrating a 50th anniversary soon). I've always gone by how they treat their mother's, that is a huge indicator in my experience.

[Whyrallnamestaken]

These questions are good for anybody to ask themselves about the person they are dating if they want something long term. A lot of common sense questions.

I think its hard to find someone even a friend that possesses a lot of these criteria.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by jouster12

Raena- that's an excellent list, a good refresher as I have known of these before. I answered almost "No" to tall of them, that's why I am moving on from the relationship. I'd much rather be alone, I'm better company

ETA: The last two are extremely important. I came to find out that a family member doesn't like him and I've noticed I have avoided his family for a good 6 months(his parents fight like cats & dogs, crazy they will be "celebrating a 50th anniversary soon). I've always gone by how they treat their mother's, that is a huge indicator in my experience.

That list is tremendous! It's a good thing I could answer yes to all of those when I think about SO.

I feel the same as you, how they treat their mothers is a big indicator.

The other one I really believe in is that you can tell a lot about a man by who his friends are.

[photogal9]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

That list is tremendous! It's a good thing I could answer yes to all of those when I think about SO.

I feel the same as you, how they treat their mothers is a big indicator.

The other one I really believe in is that you can tell a lot about a man by who his friends are.

Liberty,

Good for you! I hope to one day find the same. Agree also on the friends....birds of a feather flock together

This list could easily be turned around and say "She" to any of the questions. Not gender specific at all, heads up gentleman looking for LTR.

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

That list is tremendous! It's a good thing I could answer yes to all of those when I think about SO.

I feel the same as you, how they treat their mothers is a big indicator.

The other one I really believe in is that you can tell a lot about a man by who his friends are.

I disagree with this whole-heartedly. My Mom and I have never been very close. Our thought process is like oil and water. Look at all the divorces people have had, and I'm pretty sure a good amount of those men treated their Mom's well. That's an indicator that I will just never agree with.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by jouster12

Liberty,

Good for you! I hope to one day find the same. Agree also on the friends....birds of a feather flock together

This list could easily be turned around and say "She" to any of the questions. Not gender specific at all, heads up gentleman looking for LTR.

It is good, since we're getting married in a couple of months. I'd be in trouble if I found myself answering no to many of them!

These are the types of things everyone should be thinking about when looking for a relationship, not how hot they are and how impressed will other people be with me when they see who's on my arm.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

That list is tremendous! It's a good thing I could answer yes to all of those when I think about SO.

I feel the same as you, how they treat their mothers is a big indicator.

The other one I really believe in is that you can tell a lot about a man by who his friends are.

EXACTLY.

Some guys are not going to get this - but a wise young woman pays very careful attention to how a guy treats his mother, even if she is "crazy" or they don't share the same views.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by weezerfan84

I disagree with this whole-heartedly. My Mom and I have never been very close. Our thought process is like oil and water. Look at all the divorces people have had, and I'm pretty sure a good amount of those men treated their Mom's well. That's an indicator that I will just never agree with.

But are you respectful of your mother despite not sharing similar views or not being close? That's usually what is meant by how a man treats his mother.