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This is why at age 18, you need to deal with your issues before it's too late.
I know and alot of people are telling me to not even care about getting a girlfriend. If I strictly focus on school and work it'll put me in social isolation.
And by issues, I hope you mean his psychological/emotional ones--not the fact that he can't "get girls"!
Actually I need to work on BOTH of those problens. Even doctors think something's wrong cause I've never had a girlfriend. So it is looked at as a problem by doctors. You people who are saying its normal are just sugar coating or you're just ignorant. When you tell someone oh it's ok you've never been with a woman you're just enforcing the idea that they don't need to work on it. If you were in that situation you would feel bad about it too!
I know and alot of people are telling me to not even care about getting a girlfriend. If I strictly focus on school and work it'll put me in social isolation.
Yes I would not worry about it as such a young age. Most people of your age group (even 20s) are not yet having "serious" relationships. It's all about school and career training then. You won't get nothing at all if you end up a loser working for minimum wage.
Yes I would not worry about it as such a young age. Most people of your age group (even 20s) are not yet having "serious" relationships. It's all about school and career training then. You won't get nothing at all if you end up a loser working for minimum wage.
Then why are you upset about being a 30 year old virgin?
I still wonder if I should just wait until I get settled before diving into a long term relationship. Finish school, get a stable good paying job, and then focus on dating.
I don't understand this either/or mindset. "Focus on dating"? Come ON. It's not a science project.
Here's how it works for normal people.
1. Have friends.
2. Make more friends by socializing with your existing friends and their friends.
3. Widen your social circle continuously throughout your life so that you maintain a diversity of friends and acquaintances.
4. Find yourself socially drawn to one of the people in this circle.
5. Recognize that this person is drawn to you as well.
6. Get to know person better in one on one situations.
7. Find yourselves having much in common, enjoying each others' company and feeling mutual attraction.
8. You're in a relationship.
This can happen whether you are rich/poor, in college/out of college, working/unemployed, living in a small town/big city.
If you have time for friends, you have time for love.
I still wonder if I should just wait until I get settled before diving into a long term relationship. Finish school, get a stable good paying job, and then focus on dating.
I think it'll be harder cause most women will probably be taken, also you probably won't be around many women.
I don't understand this either/or mindset. "Focus on dating"? Come ON. It's not a science project.
Here's how it works for normal people.
1. Have friends.
2. Make more friends by socializing with your existing friends and their friends.
3. Widen your social circle continuously throughout your life so that you maintain a diversity of friends and acquaintances.
4. Find yourself socially drawn to one of the people in this circle.
5. Recognize that this person is drawn to you as well.
6. Get to know person better in one on one situations.
7. Find yourselves having much in common, enjoying each others' company and feeling mutual attraction.
8. You're in a relationship.
This can happen whether you are rich/poor, in college/out of college, working/unemployed, living in a small town/big city.
If you have time for friends, you have time for love.
That sounds amazing. But I don't know how to make a lot of friends either, my town is corrupted geez. I need a new start somewhere else, but I'll still probably need friend making skills. Unless someone just starts talking to me, that's awesome cause it takes work off of me and its really awesome when they don't stop talking to me after a day or so. When they talk to me regularly I know they're a REAL friend.
This one girl who used to be a (female dog) changed that about her and even felt bad that people were mean to me. I said don't you hate me, she said no she just thought I was annoying a lot. Fast forward some when I'm at the new school and she transfers over there. I end up telling her that I might have Aspergers (I say might because not all doctors thought I had it and I don't know if its true since a different doctors have changed my diagnostic.). I explained it makes me act awkward sometimes cause I don't always know how to act in social situations. She feels terrible and says she's so so sorry for being mean to me in the past, I forgave her. Fast forward a little and she told me I'm pretty cool when I'm normal. Thing was I wasn't actually trying to be normal. Btw all the conversations I mentioned were on Facebook. It's like sometimes when I act normal I feel funny and I have no idea why! Normal shouldn't feel weird! Being normal without trying is so cool. So I obviously have the ability to be normal and act appropriate in social situations inside of me.
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