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I will take people out (including their kids)and buy dinner, assuming they will repay the favor eventually and most do. However if one person is having this done without payback there is a problem. The guy I mentioned couldn't afford to take me out except fast food but expected me to pay for his kids. However if I brought my parents or other people he would have gotten mad.
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I will take people out (including their kids)and buy dinner, assuming they will repay the favor eventually and most do. However if one person is having this done without payback there is a problem. The guy I mentioned couldn't afford to take me out except fast food but expected me to pay for his kids. However if I brought my parents or other people he would have gotten mad.
So why were you ever hanging out with such people? It's incredibly uncommon to run into such people, in general, I've found in life. Why would you ever go out with them more than once? Poor quality character people scream they're poor quality from the start in most cases.
So why were you ever hanging out with such people? It's incredibly uncommon to run into such people, in general, I've found in life. Why would you ever go out with them more than once? Poor quality character people scream they're poor quality from the start in most cases.
I would not date a single mom before I met my current wife (married 14 yrs!). I was free and played the field and liked it that way. But then I met her and nothing else mattered. All is well.
That said, it was hell for me. The adjustment is massive. Also, if the kid's birth dad is still in the picture, tread lightly and be very careful. Especially if he's a jerk. Dad's family will also be around (grandparents, etc). It's just a lot to negotiate around.
I am glad I did it, and my step-kids are now young adults and I love them as much as if they were my own. And they love me.
Dating a single mom is nothing like dating a woman without kids. It is a HUGE difference. It's not like you're asking, "Why won't he date me if I have a fake foot?" or "I have no car.....can I still get dates?" All of that is small potatoes compared to asking why a guy won't turn his life upside down and compromise and change and adjust. And oh by the way, end up financing and raising kids if it gets serious.
And wait till the youngest one wants to call you "dad," but their real loser dad is still around. Well?
Glad I pulled the trigger, glad I stuck it out (yes there were a couple of times early on when I thought I was insane for attempting it). But it is HARD.
That's why.
Why is this even a question. No guy wants to be a volunteer cuckold.
1. Look at the post above yours. Speak for yourself.
2. Look up the definition of cuckold. Single moms will cheat on these men in the future? Is that really what you meant or are you throwing words around that you don't understand?
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