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How often do you make plans to see each other again at the conclusion of a first date?
I had a really, really good date. But we didn't make plans to see each other again at the conclusion. So now I'm thinking he didn't really enjoy himself as much as I thought. For lukewarm dates, I seem to always have the guy clamoring to go on the next one, but I've only made plans for a second date on the first date like a handful of times. But this was the rare date where I felt excited after and actually wanted to go out again. Yes, I did not say anything other than have a great weekend, and I realize this was lame. However, I blame illness (felt like crap today).
I did text him to say I had fun and want to do it again. He was a really nice, down to earth, smart, and adorably dorky guy.
Anyway....open to any thoughts you may have, good, bad, or indifferent. Do you typically make plans for a second date on the first?
Pretty much most of the times guys generally make plans to see each me again at the conclusion of the date with the rest making plans during the date. I rarely think to make plans after a date as I'm a multi-dater and to me the guys are pretty much replaceable and exchangeable.
I think it's not suited for a gal to be the one seeking to plans as to me I find guys often play the who is less interested has the power/control possibly due to their desire to be the 'dominate' one/the one wearing the pants. It may be more suited to ask if he had a good time as that may be more lined with equal/similar footing and about mutual reciprocation of interest.
How often do you make plans to see each other again at the conclusion of a first date?
I had a really, really good date. But we didn't make plans to see each other again at the conclusion. So now I'm thinking he didn't really enjoy himself as much as I thought. For lukewarm dates, I seem to always have the guy clamoring to go on the next one, but I've only made plans for a second date on the first date like a handful of times. But this was the rare date where I felt excited after and actually wanted to go out again. Yes, I did not say anything other than have a great weekend, and I realize this was lame. However, I blame illness (felt like crap today).
I did text him to say I had fun and want to do it again. He was a really nice, down to earth, smart, and adorably dorky guy.
Anyway....open to any thoughts you may have, good, bad, or indifferent. Do you typically make plans for a second date on the first?
I did have a recent experience where the guy asked for the second date on the first date which was great because I didn't have to wonder if I would hear from him again, but it doesn't always happen that way. I wouldn't worry about it just yet. Some guys just don't want to appear too eager.
I wouldn't worry about it. I've had guys show interest and plan the second date during the first only to find out he wasn't interested in a second date for real. Then I've had guys who've made no mention of a second date but was very much interested and called to set up plans.
Update: He contacted me the next day for a second date. He selected a restaurant that required reservations. I'm in my very early 30s, and I'm used to Dave & Buster's second dates; but no complaints here!
Update: He contacted me the next day for a second date. He selected a restaurant that required reservations. I'm in my very early 30s, and I'm used to Dave & Buster's second dates; but no complaints here!
I think that some men feel they lose the advantage if they look too eager. Or even that they don't necessarily think so, but their buddies have told them not to look too eager.
I don't always make plans at the conclusion of a first date. Sometimes I simply forget or don't feel like asking.
My advice, just stay in contact with him.. there's no written rule for what a guy has to do. Sometimes I wait one day, sometimes same day and sometimes more.
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