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As her future husband, why would I want her to get fired?
If she is dressing inappropriately, that is something for HR to deal with, not you.
I can't guess on what might be considered normal in her workplace. I live in a tropical area, and open toed shoes are pretty normal, wearing pantyhose is uncommon.
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Her feet are okay. What about guys who find the nape of a woman's neck sexy? Should your GF cover her neck at work also? What about a pretty face? Are you living in a Muslim country? Clearly, in a professional business environment, exposing too much breast or wearing that "little black dress" is probably inappropriate, but feet, c'mon!
Feet are just the example I have. The bigger picture involves those other parts you're referring to.
Which is it, OP: a very casual relationship, or some kind of pre-engagement? It can't be both. If it were a very casual relationship, you wouldn't be telling her how to dress. Personally, I don't believe this relationship is going to work out long-term.
Casual in terms of being told what to do rather than a strict relationship where one controls the other. This is hypothetical, I'm getting advice.
Yes, this is a serious relationship. I live in the USA. This has nothing to do with religion. Just a matter of respect.
Thank you for the advice. If she doesn't modify her behavior, and does get in trouble, then I think it is my business considering she is my future wife. She's already talking about joint bank accounts.
You both are too young to be talking about marriage. More maturity is needed. I'll bet she's talking joint bank accounts, to keep the money flowing for her designer shoes and clothes. This is a trainwreck in the making.
Why would you want to marry a woman who sabotages her employment with chronic bad judgement? You really need to think about this. Her mistakes are hers to make, you don't get to tell her what to do. And if you marry her thinking that will give you license to tell her what to do, you're asking for a trainwreck. Ask yourself: why are you making such a bad choice?
I understand you don't want her to get fired (that's a valid concern), but you're also acting like men won't be able to control themselves when they see her feet, and I don't think you really have much to worry about in that regard.
Can we put the feet aside? That's the only part I can use as a photo to try to illustrate my point. Overall, my concern is the entire wardrobe. I understand other men can control themselves and she can show whatever she wants to whomever she wants. It's a matter of respect really. No?
Lol as long as sandals are allowed then it's fine. If it's out of the company dress policy, then no...
But getting jealous for other guys looking at her "cute feet?"
That sounds like major trust issues.
Agree. Also, the pedicure is nice, but otherwise I see nothing "cute" about those feet, but then, to me most feet aren't cute except on a little baby - LOL!!
Feet are just the example I have. The bigger picture involves those other parts you're referring to.
I think it would help us all understand the bigger picture if you could please post pictures of the more concerning parts. At least a picture of her typical attire that concerns you..
i think it would help us all understand the bigger picture if you could please post pictures of the more concerning parts. At least a picture of her typical attire that concerns you..
Nobody OWNS anyone. Let your gf wear what makes her happy. If you are secure, it won't bother you. I never understood this idea to want your gf to look homely/ dressed down so as to keep others from looking at her. I have always been of the mindset to let your women be who she wants to be. If she wants to dress hot-go with it. If anything it will make you look good for being with her.
That's my point! I'm not with her. When I am, like going out at night, is not a concern whatsoever.
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