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Confront her? Do you think that if you give her a good sound beating, or curse at her, she will learn to think you are the most handsome guy on earth?
Unless you really are, or think you are, the most handsome man on earth, why do you think your lady friend should not be allowed to notice that there are better looking men? You never look at other women? You've never seen another woman that you think is better looking that she is?
Maybe she was tactless. Without hearing what she said, I wouldn't know. But she is with you and she has chosen you. You can't live if there is some man somewhere who looks better than you do?
So, OK, dump her and find a girlfriend who has only dated ugly men, so that she will appreciate your looks.
I think the context, which is mostly missing, matters. For example, if you know one of her Xs and you said you thought he was better looking than you and her comments followed, well then you put her in a tough spot. Even then she might have simply declined to comment at all, but her comments would be excusable in that context.
However, if this comment was unprompted, then I think you ought to "confront" her with the information that what she said hurt you. You obviously seemed troubled by this, and you owe it to yourself to let her know that.
Talking to her may be the beginning of the end for you as a couple (or the next chapter given her comment) but you have to be willing to let that be. Being hurt and not speaking up because you're afraid of losing the person who hurt you is a recipe for emotional disaster.
Confront her? Do you think that if you give her a good sound beating, or curse at her, she will learn to think you are the most handsome guy on earth?
Unless you really are, or think you are, the most handsome man on earth, why do you think your lady friend should not be allowed to notice that there are better looking men? You never look at other women? You've never seen another woman that you think is better looking that she is?
Maybe she was tactless. Without hearing what she said, I wouldn't know. But she is with you and she has chosen you. You can't live if there is some man somewhere who looks better than you do?
So, OK, dump her and find a girlfriend who has only dated ugly men, so that she will appreciate your looks.
Lol. Only a horrible person incapable of empathy would tell their SO how much hotter all their previous lovers were than them. This chick sucks.
She says and I quote (roughly): You're not good looking. I've been with guys much hotter. But it doesn't matter - you are a very good person. That's why I am with you.
Although it hurt, I feel like I've fallen into my own trap - because I always say looks don't matter, only personality does. So now I can't even confront her. Still, it hurts to know that your SO doesn't think you're attractive. I already have low self-esteem and think I am a 3 even when most people say I am an 8. But for gf to treat me like a 3 is
Am I wasting my time with her?
Your low self-esteem is going to kill any relationship before it gets started.
You shouldn't have asked her if she finds you attractive; how do I know you asked? Because no chick is going to come out and say she doesn't think you are good-looking.
That said, she stated she isn't with you for your looks, but because you are a good person. Why is that not good enough for you?
CD amazes me. This dudes girlfriend straight tells him he's ugly AND tells him how much hotter her previous dudes were, and he gets bashed up and down the thread. Comical.
If chick came on here and laid one of these out : "My boyfriend told me I'm fat and ugly, and all his other lovers were so much hotter." We'd be witnessing a coddling session, telling her that she's beautiful no matter what and her boyfriend is an inconsiderate pig.
CD amazes me. This dudes girlfriend straight tells him he's ugly AND tells him how much hotter her previous dudes were, and he gets bashed up and down the thread. Comical.
We're all just speculating here. While this was a tactless conversation to have, for sure, we don't know exactly what she said to him. Being called "not hot" isn't the same thing as being called ugly.
We're all just speculating here. While this was a tactless conversation to have, for sure, we don't know exactly what she said to him. Being called "not hot" isn't the same thing as being called ugly.
I agree. But if she went on to tell him that the rest of her boyfriends were so much hotter, that's not just tactless. There is motive behind that.
CD amazes me. This dudes girlfriend straight tells him he's ugly AND tells him how much hotter her previous dudes were, and he gets bashed up and down the thread. Comical.
If chick came on here and laid one of these out : "My boyfriend told me I'm fat and ugly, and all his other lovers were so much hotter." We'd be witnessing a coddling session, telling her that she's beautiful no matter what and her boyfriend is an inconsiderate pig.
Yep. And patting each other on the back while ripping OP to shreds.
She says But it doesn't matter - you are a very good person. That's why I am with you.
I could be mistaken, but maybe not too far off:
"But it doesn't matter as you're giving me gifts and paying for most other things. That's why I am sticking with you for now till I find a sucker replacement."
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