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People often say nice guys are nice because they want to get in your pants.
So bloody what?
It is a biological urge - at least subconsciously, people are on the lookout for a mate, to maximize their reproductive success. It is evolution. So, giving in to this biological urge isn't a crime. In the animal kingdom, animals use different tactics to attract their mates - peacocks, for instance, use their feathers. Elephants 'bully' smaller elephants in the pack to impress the females - not different from high school, eh?
My point is, it isn't a crime to expect sex in return for being nice. [Mod cut.]
So stop this attack on nice guys, saying they have motives bla bla. Yes, every SOB has motives - the not-so-nice guy also has a motive and wants to [Mod cut.] But that is okay, since he doesn't claim to be nice???? But the nice guy .... it isn't enough that he be nice and helpful, but he should also have no sexual desire, no lust, nothing, in short, he should be a nice old grandpa pampering you, expecting nothing in return.
I am sick of this world and all the [Mod cut.] people in it.
(Rant Over).
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Last edited by PJSaturn; 04-23-2014 at 12:08 PM..
Reason: Deleted vulgar language.
People often say nice guys are nice because they want to get in your pants.
So bloody what?
It is a biological urge - at least subconsciously, people are on the lookout for a mate, to maximize their reproductive success. It is evolution. So, giving in to this biological urge isn't a crime. In the animal kingdom, animals use different tactics to attract their mates - peacocks, for instance, use their feathers. Elephants 'bully' smaller elephants in the pack to impress the females - not different from high school, eh?
My point is, it isn't a crime to expect sex in return for being nice. [Snip.]
So stop this attack on nice guys, saying they have motives bla bla. Yes, every SOB has motives - the not-so-nice guy also has a motive and wants to [Snip.] you. But that is okay, since he doesn't claim to be nice???? But the nice guy .... it isn't enough that he be nice and helpful, but he should also have no sexual desire, no lust, nothing, in short, he should be a nice old grandpa pampering you, expecting nothing in return.
I am sick of this world and all the [Snip.] people in it.
(Rant Over).
[Snip.]
I am not sure what you define as "being nice" or what a "nice guy" is in your estimation. This hyperbole is thrown around here so often, and seems to describe all sorts of guys... but mostly those who have no social aptitude to build relationships with women.
Anyway...
Your whole thread brakes down when you assume you deserve something in return for being nice to someone. Whether the expected return is sex or anything else, doing something for someone with expectation of earning something in return is anything but having a "nice" motive.
Sex in a healthy adult relationship is not generally a commodity to be traded for services.
Its no different expecting marriage after 8 years of dating. He isnt entitled to sex nor is she entitled to a ring. If you are dumb enough to pay for a womans time while you get nothing but a bill you deserve it. If you let a guy get you pregnant without a marriage then unless thats what you wanted you are also dumb.
People only do what you allow them to. No one is entitled to anything so stop expecting things from people.
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