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Egh finding such a guy is not my search so I'm unsure why you're stating "I don't think you should give up your search". I'm not searching for what I consider to be basically an unrealistic idealistic male standard.
Meh it's not sad to me though I tend to be quite unemotional. In my opinion it may not be sad as the gals can get emotional intimacy from other sources than males.
So where is it that men are supposed to get their emotional consolation? Women are inherently okay with depending on other women for such needs, the same can't be said for men. You don't even generally see it in the animal kingdom. Instead men are told, even in this thread, to do things like "man up". They are expected to see the horrors of war and come out okay!
Something killed my drive. I stopped wanting sex most of the time and now I just want cuddles, even in clothes. Heck, I stopped trying to imagine what a woman looks like naked.
You've lost your mojo. LOL!!!
Personally, I'm okay with intercourse, but I'd appreciate a good cuddle and listening to my woman whispering ecstatically afterwards.
So where is it that men are supposed to get their emotional consolation? Women are inherently okay with depending on other women for such needs, the same can't be said for men. You don't even generally see it in the animal kingdom. Instead men are told, even in this thread, to do things like "man up". They are expected to see the horrors of war and come out okay!
Possibly the same can't be said for guys depending on other guys for emotional consolation due to traditional male gender roles. Perhaps if notions like 'man up' and 'boys/men don't cry' were heavily lessened and guys were encouraged to be support networks then guys could get emotional consolation/intimacy from other males.
I used to be a happy kid, very long ago, as a 4-5 year old. I was naturally happy and I became sad due to my own psychological weakness, seeing as how I got depressed due to trauma and abuse. If ****ty memories made me depressed then it's up to me to make good memories and make myself happy.
I could have written that post, except I don't really remember being happy.
I could have written that post, except I don't really remember being happy.
I still had normal hearing, health, an enthusiastic biological father, and an actual group of friends. After that I lost my hearing, father, health, friends and everything went to ****.
Likely the men in committed relationships interact with gals non-sexually because their sexual desires are already fulfilled/satisfied by their committed relationship. So it seems at 'best' guys will interact with gals non-sexually if they are already getting sex.
Vastly different opinions as I'm pretty biased against humans and possibly misanthropic regarding the amount of 'good' people as few. In my experience and observations good guys in the way you describe do not exist in numerous numbers as it seems guys are not taught behaving the way you described is a positive, desired, or being a man/masculine.
Meh if you're going to hope it may be more suited to hope I will a million lottery as it'd probably be more likely and more appreciated.
I also think just because a guy has an average/high drive doesn't mean he's not capable of putting in energy and valuing other parts of the relationship hence why I stated 'atypical heterosexual guy who loves her more than she loves him'.
Holy cow, they should grant you a PhD in sociology and phycology for figuring these things out lol. Guys do put in energy to things other than sex so long as the good sex is happening frequently. Good sex is the VERY first box to check immediately below food and shelter at least for me. If something happens to the supply of sex everything else is put on hold (other than my job since that pays for food and shelter) till I sort it out.
Possibly the same can't be said for guys depending on other guys for emotional consolation due to traditional male gender roles. Perhaps if notions like 'man up' and 'boys/men don't cry' were heavily lessened and guys were encouraged to be support networks then guys could get emotional consolation/intimacy from other males.
We would have a bunch of weak men who could not fight wars, would not have the intellectual fortitude to do things like hard science or engineering, etc. Hey wait that's exactly what the USA is turning into.
Sure if you watched your buddy get blown up in a war other men will cut you a lot of slack if you broke down but its rarely ok for anything else in normal day to day life. My gf does not want me crying and acting like a woman lol.
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