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Two days ago in the early AM my wife's water broke. We didn't know she was pregnant, she didn't show any signs. So later that day she had a C section and gave birth to two beautiful twin girls.
Here's the twist, there's a very big change they aren't mine. About 8 months ago she admitted to cheating, a threesome... smh. One of the guys went in raw and yea.... We are both in our 20's and was just starting to establish ourselves. I always suspected she was pregnant but she thinks she is invincible (at least before she did) and whenever I questioned her or brought the idea of planned parenthood she got defensive.
To be blunt Im hurt, have had numerous emotional breakdowns, and im numb, I hate life right now. This might end our relationship
At first we were going to place them for adoption, but her and her family are attached. Im not whatsoever and i have deep resentment for all of this.
What should I do?
I know she loves me and wants to be with me and is very sorry for all of this. I just don't know what to do, im upset.
Find out if they are yours. Does your employer have an employee assistance program? See if they do.
People never think their lives are going to turn out to be a train wreck.
First off, I am very sorry this is happening to you.
I agree with first getting a DNA test to see if they are yours or not. Even if they are, you still have a lot to face. What you do depends on what you want. If you want to try and salvage the relationship, then you should go to some heavy duty couples counseling.
ok, she cheated, so you have choices to make, stay with her or go, also about the babies, keep or give away, personally, I'd keep them, any man or woman can become a father or mother, but it takes some one special to be a dad or a mom to children, those babies did nothing wrong so why should they pay for this, if you really can not see your self raising these babies then you will need to decide what to do for you.
I have Four children now ( all over 18 ) two are mine with my late wife ( she passed 10 years ago ) one she and I had adopted, and one my new wife has brought with her, I love and treat them all the same, they are my heart.
Good luck with this hard time in your life but you'll get through it, Buddha bless.
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