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And to go back to my OP, I have met a small portion of women and men who believe in sex in a committed relationship--though I'll be honest and say that from experience, it's sort of a dime out of a dozen scenario, but they're out there. And there are men, even player-types who are willing to "hold off" if they meet a woman out of this group that they deem worth it(for whatever reason). It's happened plenty of times. But that stance isn't as common, as is, the people amongst my generation that are okay with sleeping with each other without a commitment--whether it's a fwb, just casual dating, or a ONS. And if I was still relationship-minded, to weed out the men that were only interested in me for sex, I would maintain this stance. However, since right now I don't want a relationship, but want sex, having this stance does little for me, beyond making me sexually frustrated. I applaud the women in this thread, who are either still virgins, or are waiting until commitment/relationship for sex and have found themselves waiting a significant amount of time but are holding strong. I was able to do this, but lately I've been sort of like f*** it.
You want a commitment before sex but not a relationship?
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You want a commitment before sex but not a relationship?
Right now, every man has his eyes glued to his computer screen. Having her, holding her, and sexing her without having to talk about anything with her!!??
And to go back to my OP, I have met a small portion of women and men who believe in sex in a committed relationship--though I'll be honest and say that from experience, it's sort of a dime out of a dozen scenario, but they're out there.
Maybe I'm missing or misinterpreting something, but you are trying to say that there are small portions of men and women who want sex in a committed relationship, but then go on to say that 10 out of 12 of them do?
For me, at least, it's not how many dates or any typical time frame to have sex with a guy. I have been on dates with guys that I liked, but wasn't sure I wanted to have sex, or date further, just needed to figure out. And there were guys that from the beginning a wanted it, no time frames, just what feels right with the individual person.
For me there's no rule on how many dates, or weeks, it might be 2 or 5 dates or after the second date realize I'm just not that into him that way.
Right now, every man has his eyes glued to his computer screen. Having her, holding her, and sexing her without having to talk about anything with her!!??
Only kidding, only kidding
No your not. ROFL.
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You want a commitment before sex but not a relationship?
No, my previous stance was always commitment and a stable relationship prior to sex. Therefore no matter how sexually attracted I was to a guy, or how much I liked him, if he was not a boyfriend that I had been with and really connected with I would not sleep with him. It worked for me prior to now, because I wasn't as focused on sex, and was attempting to weed out the men who were trying to get laid or who weren't willing to invest in a relationship with me. However as it stands, I don't have time to commit to a relationship the way I would want to anyway, and I want to have sex. But I still am uncomfortable with having sex with a man I barely know, or having a ONS. So as opposed to my previous stance where I wanted commitment and a good amount of time dating, my stance is only now that I have at least spent enough time with the guy to where I feel comfortable and have some sort of connection prior to having sex with him. In other words, I no longer care about commitment prior to sex in the form of a relationship or 90 days, etc, but I still care about developing some type of connection and getting to know the person prior to sleeping with him. If that makes sense.
Maybe I'm missing or misinterpreting something, but you are trying to say that there are small portions of men and women who want sex in a committed relationship, but then go on to say that 10 out of 12 of them do?
I meant that it's a dime out of dozen of people who don't care as much about commitment/relationship prior to sex, and seems to be a smaller amount of those that do(again amongst my generation). This is not to say that there is something wrong with those people, or anything wrong with the current dating culture, but rather that it's not very common and so people in my position might find that there are more people NOT willing to "wait" for commitment prior to sex than those that do. This means passing up on more opportunities and partners than one would have to if they were more carefree about it.
And like I said, if I were still relationship-minded and in a place where I can be in a relationship, I would continue on with this stance, but being that I'm not and don't know when I'll be at a place where can I have a relationship, I'm sort of just adapting I guess.
No, my previous stance was always commitment and a stable relationship prior to sex. Therefore no matter how sexually attracted I was to a guy, or how much I liked him, if he was not a boyfriend that I had been with and really connected with I would not sleep with him. It worked for me prior to now, because I wasn't as focused on sex, and was attempting to weed out the men who were trying to get laid or who weren't willing to invest in a relationship with me. However as it stands, I don't have time to commit to a relationship the way I would want to anyway, and I want to have sex. But I still am uncomfortable with having sex with a man I barely know, or having a ONS. So as opposed to my previous stance where I wanted commitment and a good amount of time dating, my stance is only now that I have at least spent enough time with the guy to where I feel comfortable and have some sort of connection prior to having sex with him. In other words, I no longer care about commitment prior to sex in the form of a relationship or 90 days, etc, but I still care about developing some type of connection and getting to know the person prior to sleeping with him. If that makes sense.
So you are in the market for a FWB, emphasis on "friend", but you need to make a friend first?
Honestly that should be the easiest thing in the world. Tell a guy that and he should have no problem (most at least) with you getting comfortable with him.
If that is what you are looking for you should have guys lined up for the position (all of them!)
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