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Me and my husband have been together for about seven going on eight years. Married for five. We have seperated a few times (all him not me) and that caused us to live seperatly. Recently he said he didnt want to be with me no more, so he broke up with me. Gave me the lame excuse " it's not you, its me" and that I was the perfect wife, and he's no good for me. We agreed to try and be "friends"...
So now I find out from a close friend of ours, that he has a "new girl" (some new girl from his job). Aparently instead of staying in our mutual friends house, he has been spending nights with his "new girl'. He also stated that he was going to ask me for a divorce.
He has not spoke to me about it yet, but that he is looking into it.
I am confused at this point, if you say Im the 'perfect wife" , why do you want to get a divorce? He says he loves me with all of his heart, but that doesnt make sense to me at all!! If you love me, you would work this out. Thats how I would be. I dont know. So now Im just left devestated. Should I request the divorce first? or should I let him do it..
I am just trying to move on from this but it is so hard. Never did I think he would cheat on me for someone else. Its just so devasting. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?
i'm sorry. i don't have any advice at all. i know this is very hard and you are hurting.
if you think he is for sure going to file for divorce it might make you feel slightly better to be the one to file first. but honestly, it doesn't really matter. i wanted to divorce my (ex) husband and i told him. before i got a chance to file, he filed first. i'm sure that it made him feel better to do that. but in the end it doesn't matter.
i'm sorry you are hurting. him wanting divorce is hard enough. but to add that he is already with someone else just really twists that knife in your heart, doesn't it?
Sorry to hear your are hurting. Try to look at it like this. If his heart is not 100% with you , he is doing you a favor by ending things with you. Try to circle yourself with family and close friends until you feel better.
Me and my husband have been together for about seven going on eight years. Married for five. We have seperated a few times (all him not me) and that caused us to live seperatly. Recently he said he didnt want to be with me no more, so he broke up with me. Gave me the lame excuse " it's not you, its me" and that I was the perfect wife, and he's no good for me. We agreed to try and be "friends"...
So now I find out from a close friend of ours, that he has a "new girl" (some new girl from his job). Aparently instead of staying in our mutual friends house, he has been spending nights with his "new girl'. He also stated that he was going to ask me for a divorce.
He has not spoke to me about it yet, but that he is looking into it.
I am confused at this point, if you say Im the 'perfect wife" , why do you want to get a divorce? He says he loves me with all of his heart, but that doesnt make sense to me at all!! If you love me, you would work this out. Thats how I would be. I dont know. So now Im just left devestated. Should I request the divorce first? or should I let him do it..
I am just trying to move on from this but it is so hard. Never did I think he would cheat on me for someone else. Its just so devasting. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?
P.S. sorry for the ramble
I am a bit confused by this thread stating that you are so heartbroken and confused yet on a different thread this is what you posted on May 21:
New to online dating, which would you guys reccomend is the best site? POF, Match, Eharmony, etc. So many to choose from
So are you heartbroken and devastated or are you for a date? Are you still married? Were you looking for a date so you could cheat on your husband last week?
What is the real story?
New to online dating, which would you guys reccomend is the best site? POF, Match, Eharmony, etc. So many to choose from
So are you heartbroken and devastated or are you for a date? Are you still married? Were you looking for a date so you could cheat on your husband last week?
What is the real story?
Nothing to be confused about. I asked a question about online dating sites because a coworker of mine suggested to try and date and how it would "help me get out there". So I just wanted to be informed. And to answer your question yes I'm still married on paper but we are separated. Hope that clarifies things for you
Nothing to be confused about. I asked a question about online dating sites because a coworker of mine suggested to try and date and how it would "help me get out there". So I just wanted to be informed. And to answer your question yes I'm still married on paper but we are separated. Hope that clarifies things for you
"It's not you, it's me" is usually an indication that the person has cheated or wants to cheat. Many people can't handle "perfection" when you seem like the perfect mate, they crack under pressure and do something stupid. My high school gf broke up with me, citing the same reason. Time heals wounds, you'll be fine.
Nothing to be confused about. I asked a question about online dating sites because a coworker of mine suggested to try and date and how it would "help me get out there". So I just wanted to be informed. And to answer your question yes I'm still married on paper but we are separated. Hope that clarifies things for you
So you were looking into dating sites a week ago at the suggestion of a friend but just yesterday you decided you are completely devasted and heartbroken because your husband just left you?
Me and my husband have been together for about seven going on eight years. Married for five. We have seperated a few times (all him not me) and that caused us to live seperatly. Recently he said he didnt want to be with me no more, so he broke up with me. Gave me the lame excuse " it's not you, its me" and that I was the perfect wife, and he's no good for me. We agreed to try and be "friends"...
So now I find out from a close friend of ours, that he has a "new girl" (some new girl from his job). Aparently instead of staying in our mutual friends house, he has been spending nights with his "new girl'. He also stated that he was going to ask me for a divorce.
He has not spoke to me about it yet, but that he is looking into it.
I am confused at this point, if you say Im the 'perfect wife" , why do you want to get a divorce? He says he loves me with all of his heart, but that doesnt make sense to me at all!! If you love me, you would work this out. Thats how I would be. I dont know. So now Im just left devestated. Should I request the divorce first? or should I let him do it..
I am just trying to move on from this but it is so hard. Never did I think he would cheat on me for someone else. Its just so devasting. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?
P.S. sorry for the ramble
You didn't get the hint from him - he is not into you. That's the real reason and there is nothing you can do about that.
Are you sure you can trust what this "close friend" says? They may have an ulterior motive...
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