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It goes without saying that you should dump her, BUT NOT BEFORE you mess with her. Tell her that this is awesome and since the massages are free, you will be joining the session with them - just to help her friend get more practice time. Watch her squirm, but keep insisting. Don't look and sound all suspicious - make it look like you only care about getting a free massage. Don't let up until she blows up, and then calmly say "I'm just kidding baby, I know he's been nailin ya', now get out."
Maybe it also goes without saying that you should read his update posted just a few hours ago.
I've been dating a girl for a couple of months and recently found out that she was getting massages from a male co worker. He had come over to her place and was giving her a table massage and I asked if she was nude she said she covered her self with a towel.
He left the massage table in her room because he said he would come back weekly. She claims nothing was going on and that he was just looking to get into massaging as a part time side job but I have a real hard time believing this?
I told her I wasn't okay with it and she says she told him that and now the massage table is now gone.
Thoughts?
I think you have no right to tell you girlfriend how to live her life, who her friends are and who she can get a massage from especially a girlfriend of 2 short months of dating.
You did not state you have a reason to believe there was anything outside of massage therapy practice (which by the way the students do need to practice).
The guy already has a good paying full time white collar job, why would he suddenly want to go into freelance massage?
After she told him I didn't want her getting massages from him he still texted her anyways. I think the most bogus sounding thing is that when I confronted her she said that other girl coworkers accepted massages and their husbands/boyfriends were okay with it.
But just to clarify when I say naked massage I mean the type where you have a towel draped over her, at least that's what she said.
The thing that raises the most suspicion is that she admittedly has a high sex drive and prefers to have sex daily , I mentioned this in another thread and everybody thought I was being paranoid until I raised this topic.
Last edited by Lost Leaf; 06-05-2014 at 08:48 AM..
From a coworker who is thinking of maybe going to massage school? Uh huh. She's his only "customer," too. Super legit.
Look, anything is possible. But what is he supposed to say? That she needs to end her weekly massage sessions in order to appease his insecurity, even though he has no hard evidence she has done anything wrong? Yeah, he can do that. But he probably won't get the response he wants. What then?
Look, anything is possible. But what is he supposed to say? That she needs to end her weekly massage sessions in order to appease his insecurity, even though he has no hard evidence she has done anything wrong? Yeah, he can do that. But he probably won't get the response he wants. What then?
She doesn't need to stop doing anything. Unless the OP is interested in an open relationship or threesome with the guy, my advice is to tell her to GTFO. Even if nothing's happening, the OP is not obliged to keep dating a woman who has such radically different boundaries. It bothers him that she has coffee with coworkers and wants sex a lot. These two are really mismatched. It's only been a few months and is already a mess. Why keep trying?
Not for nothing, but this is pretty much how my husband and I got one of our girlfriends. She made house calls and we got naked. I'm pretty biased here.
Good point. Just read it - it's amazing how powerful denial is. She probably still can't believe she got away with it.
Judging from what's been divulged here about the contents of his previous posts on other threads (which I haven't read, and responded to only what was said here) the shoe may well turn out to be on the other foot and she will quickly realize how fortunate she was to get away from him before any more time was wasted.
Judging from what's been divulged here about the contents of his previous posts on other threads (which I haven't read, and responded to only what was said here) the shoe may well turn out to be on the other foot and she will quickly realize how fortunate she was to get away from him before any more time was wasted.
LoL, yeah I'm the one that's got the problem because I'm not comfortable with her letting a coworker go into her bedroom and put his hands on her naked body when I'm not around. Nothing wrong with that right?
I don't think you've responded if you would be willing to have the same situation take place for yourself?
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